How do I be a man?

Isaac Lewis
Isaac Lewis

I grew up with a single mother and am only just now able to move out at 23. My mother insists on not letting me move out in peace, saying the following

she wants to decorate my apartment so my friends will see nice things when they come over

I have no friends and am a virgin and do not care for this. I would rather live frugally. All I need is my rig, a chair and desk, a nice bed, and a stool to occasionally eat at the counter. She will not accept this.

says that if she does not get a call from me every week she will come and knock on my apartment door and I 'better answer it when she comes'

is trying to lowkey influence where in town I get my apartment

wants to be involved with the set-up of said apartment

I don't want her inside of my place at all because it will buzzkill the mood

I can't move far away, seeing as I haven't saved enough to do something like this. My really nice job is in town so I have no choice.

Anyone have advice on what I should do?

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Xavier Parker
Xavier Parker

Ask her to give you a budget to decorate your own apartment. It is your dwelling place after all.
Call your mom twice a week, It's really not that hard. Just don't let her come over.

Ayden Lee
Ayden Lee

Call your mom twice a week

That seems excessive and annoying

Just don't let her come over.

I told her and my aunt this over the phone and they seems angry and offended.

Matthew Phillips
Matthew Phillips

op, theres no other way to put this;
"being a man" doesnt mean being a chad…
it means pulling your head out of your autistic ass and thinking of the needs of others occasionally…
if nothing else, just play the normie game with your mom - i know that sounds tedious - but a phone call a week isnt asking a lot…

Cameron Roberts
Cameron Roberts

OP ask 'How be a man'?
I tell OP
drink vodka
beat mother

Nathan Adams
Nathan Adams

That's not right. That's not right at ALL!

Grayson Smith
Grayson Smith

Why would you move out? Are you a massive retard?

Hudson Wood
Hudson Wood

Your mother has a serious problem letting go. Assuming you're financially independent of her you need to look her in the eye and say that you're going to live your own life.

Mason Rivera
Mason Rivera

Beat up mixd race couples

Justin Taylor
Justin Taylor

Oh, and call her once a week. That part isn't unreasonable to ask. Decorating your apartment is.

Gabriel Sullivan
Gabriel Sullivan

You pick the decoration with her, you tell her what you like and what you want. You might get friends if you stop complaining like that, who knows.
And you call your mom, that's what men do. Tell her to call before coming, it's just the right thing to do before going to someone else's place.
And once in a while, you clean up your mess and invite your mother in.
Of course to do all that you're gonna need to assert yourself and right now you're in a submissive relationship with your mother. It's okay, but keep in mind it's not easy for a woman to let their child go.

Also, once you moved in, you may want to know who is your closests neighboors.

Ayden Hill
Ayden Hill

tell her if she is coming she is sleeping with you in your bed don't shower and gym all over the place she will hate that shit

Lincoln Rogers
Lincoln Rogers

I'm gonna go with / 's advice, but thanks anyway user

Ryder Brown
Ryder Brown

Birds are adorable

Xavier Myers
Xavier Myers

Buy a gun. Seriously, go find a range and sign up for an introduction class, maybe go shoot an Appleseed course, and buy a gun couple of guns.
Once you've learned to shoot then learn to hunt, clean, and cook wild game.

You will probably make friends through it too, especially if you get into sport shooting.

Carter Fisher
Carter Fisher

I have a Ruger American Pistol and a blunderbuss that I saved up for as well as an expandable baton. My mother encouraged me to go to the range as much as possible.

That said, everyone at my range is like 30-50 years old. No friends to be made.

Benjamin Foster
Benjamin Foster

Dude. Don't be cucked by blood. Jump ship. If you really do live frugally, take what you have in your savings and leave the state. Find a place with a similar cost of living and when you call her on her birthday next year, tell her if she tried to pull some shit like that again this is the last time she's going to hear the sound of your voice. Simple really.

John Howard
John Howard

she wants to decorate my apartment so my friends will see nice things when they come over

She's trying to help get laid you moron.

Connor Cook
Connor Cook

Tell her "go to hell".

Daniel Walker
Daniel Walker

OP, you are making yourself into your own man. That's the whole thing, taking steps to make a living for yourself and our future family. I understand the pressure you feel from your mother, it's reasonable. She created you, nurtured you, and raised you to be what seems like an OK person. She just wants the best for you. Look, the simple way to deal with your mother is like this. "I want to save up my money for my future. Furniture can always be purchased, but for now this apartment is going to set me back a few hundred dollars a month. Let me figure out my finances here in this place before I go putting myself in debt with new/ overpriced furniture."

Make it a money / investment thing. She'll understand. Work and PC life seems like a great life to me, just make sure that you get some kind of socializing at least once a week, you don't want your social skills deteriorating to nothing.

Good work OP, I'm rooting for you. Just keep moving forward and you'll see that your mother will see that you are doing fine and will take a few steps back and let your grow as an independent person. Keep us posted man.

Tyler Taylor
Tyler Taylor

watch baki the grappler and try to be exactly like yujiro

Isaac Rivera
Isaac Rivera

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Kayden Reed
Kayden Reed

you fucking faggot, GTFO

Easton Cruz
Easton Cruz

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CIAnigger in disguise that constantly changes IP, get out you Jew.

Eli Gomez
Eli Gomez

Move to a less expensive city, do it over night, don't tell her whereor when, but leave a postit on the fridge , telling her to fuck off.

Hunter Ward
Hunter Ward

How is this difficult in the slightest? Cut all ties with her and just leave.

Kevin James
Kevin James

You act like it's easy to do this when I don't have a job lined up in another city.

I'll take this advice as well

Brody Young
Brody Young

trust your mother over this shithole site. thats my real advice to you as another user in similar shoes.

Colton Rodriguez
Colton Rodriguez

pastebin.com/q9J0s8uR

This will be the most important book in your life:
archive.org/details/principles101

I've read it 3 times now!

It will never replace a father but it's better than all my spineless/balless male relatives combined.

Ayden Howard
Ayden Howard

meh, i dont really want to read all of that but it isnt like i have anything better to do

Matthew Lewis
Matthew Lewis

Youre asking us how to be a man when you probably make way more than us that work for minimum wage

Ian Campbell
Ian Campbell

So? I'm still being cucked by my mom out of living my own life.

Juan Ortiz
Juan Ortiz

Confess you are sexually attracted to her and are moving out because you can't handle it anymore. She should leave you alone after that.
A month later you can tell her you made the whole thing up so she would leave you alone. Might want to make a video confessing your plan before you tell her so you can show it afterwards. Or you can just leave it out there to weird her out.

Daniel Moore
Daniel Moore

Debasing yourself in her & your own eyes is not the answer!

Show her you are an adult man and not a child she can manipulate.

If you can't get yourself to read, listen to the podcasts and watch the videos first. All I ask in return is that, if this helps you, you continue to spread the word.