I have a problem, and the only place I can ask for honest advice is Holla Forums so I really hope one of you knows what to do.
My daughter is dressing like a whore. She's 15. She posts very suggestive selfies on instagram and captions them with sexually explicit phrases. She used to upload twerking videos on YouTube but thankfully her account was suspended; the comments were all from perverts and she often replied to them in ways that encouraged them even more. She wears miniskirts, high heels, fishnets, etc. and uses way too much makeup. I keep telling her she's going to get raped sooner or later. Every time I tell her she should be careful, she just says she "won't let ugly boys touch her with a long stick". I keep telling her that it doesn't matter what she wants if someone wants to rape her, they're going to rape her and her not wanting it is exactly what makes it rape.
She doesn't believe in that definition of rape, being the Tumblr generation, claims that rape is "when you're with a boy but he's with other girls, every time you did it was rape but you just didn't know it yet". I have told her at least a dozen times that that's cheating, not rape. Every time, she will thank me for explaining it like it was the first time I've said it. She insists that the reason she forgets is because I'm wrong, that I'm a prude, that her mother understands her and supports her right to dress and behave how she wants. I'm not on the best terms with my ex but I know for a fact and have discussed with her at length that she is not supportive at all of our girl's actions.
We've both tried to get her interested in wearing less revealing clothes through fashion and the traditional dress from our original culture. Unfortunately, she insists that wearing anything similar to any traditional clothing is "racist cultural appropriation". Even if that was a concern, I've explained to her (as has her mother) that it couldn't be "cultural appropriation" as it is her own culture, but she protests very loudly that since she was born in the United States and "passes" as white, she has no connection to our heritage and is a member of the "white race" that is to blame for slavery.
Myself being a history teacher, I've lectured her quite a bit on the history of slavery among the native peoples of America and elsewhere in the world, about the intercommunal slavery of the African peoples, the Arab slave trade, the far-reaching slavery in India, and the fact that the kind of slavery that she thinks is long gone and invented by white people still exists in Mauritania. I've also told her about the Irish slaves, who of course are not called slaves (I do think there should be a political discussion on whether or not to call it slavery, rather than dismissing it as "not slavery") and stressed that there couldn't possibly have been even a single ancestor in our family to have owned slaves in the United States and reassured her that even with us being Guti and there being no consensus on how white we are, we are not as white as she thinks we are. Often, her response is that "well YOU'RE not white, but I am!!!!" which just makes no sense. She insists that whiteness is not purely genetic, but that because we're doing well financially and live in a community with a low crime rate, she's white even if neither of her parents are white.
I'm convinced that she's intentionally stupid to rebel, that because I'm a history teacher and my ex is a biology teacher, she has to become the opposite of a teacher. How can we convince her that rape is in fact a real threat and to at least try to pay attention at school? I know it's retarded to ask for parenting advice on Holla Forums but I need some blunt answers. If she was anyone other than my daughter, I'd think she would deserve to get raped if she dresses and behaves so provocatively that it borders on indecent exposure, but she is my daughter. I even discussed with my ex the possibility of us all moving to a small Guti exile community in Armenia so she wouldn't face the risks of city life, around people with the same values and preserving tradition. My ex doesn't think it's necessary but even she thinks it is a possibility if our daughter doesn't change her behavior, because her safety is most important.
Everyone was a teen once and I know in America it's more acceptable for teens to push the limits, but is it really just a phase or is she going to ruin her future for something as trivial as attention from boys? She has all the time in the world… I'm at a loss on what to do. Any help, Holla Forums?
