Breaking up LDR

Aiden White
Aiden White

How to break up with my LDR Holla Forums?
Im like her first boyfriend but I see why no guy would want her by now, shit taste in music, pretty much bipolar, daddy issues, says I'm always mad at her (ive never been mad at someone in my entire life)
Should I just block her on everything and be done with it? Should I make her break up with me? Should I man up and break up with her?
Im in quite the moral dilemma here Holla Forums

Ethan Ortiz
Ethan Ortiz

Tell her that that you want a threesome with her hot friend

Kevin Lee
Kevin Lee

shit taste in music, pretty much bipolar, daddy issues
Just so you know, this is every woman ever.

Juan Kelly
Juan Kelly

I've seen enough Seinfeld to know where this is going…

Jonathan Long
Jonathan Long

Tell her you are a closet homosexual. If she asks for proof, show her this forum.

Brody Morgan
Brody Morgan

If it helps she just went out for 4 hours without telling me and then bitched on me for saying I always get mad at her for that kind of stuff for no reason

Nicholas Carter
Nicholas Carter

Just straight up tell her that you are sick of her, just like you did here.
Is there a possibility she can accuse you of raping or extorting her? If not, just do it and be done with it.

Don't be a faggot and just block her. That's retarded.
Only block her if she hounds you after you have told her to stop contacting her.

James Phillips
James Phillips

Here's the thing dude (excuse me for getting way too personal with some mudman on the internet)
I love her, I do, and I want to be with her forever if it was up to me
Im just so sick and tired of her bipolar behaviour its absolutely destroying me
One moment shes the best gf ive ever had
Next moment she gets mad at me and almost ignores me
Its ripping me apart dude

Samuel Gonzalez
Samuel Gonzalez

No problem, despite being sensitive, I like using "strong language" depending on the context.

You probably should have mentioned that stuff in the OP, because that changes everything.

To be succinct, have a "sit-down" (over Skype, Discord, or whatever you use to communicate verbally) and explain the whole situation to her.
Tell her if she doesn't start treating you better, you see yourself forced to end the relationship even though you are still in love with her.

That's about the best advice I can give you.
Like always, everything's easier said than done.

Easton Jackson
Easton Jackson

I forgot to mention, this is assuming everything you said on here was true.
If you are 100% in the right and she's 100% in the wrong, go through with it.
If you still want to make some concessions, I may modify my advice.

Cameron Davis
Cameron Davis

Im sorry if I dont fully give my story at any point we spend ALOT of time together because of my lax college times
We have had a conversation about just that yesterday,I told her I could stay up till late so we can spend more time together like we used to before IF she would talk to me more about things
Our last convo went like this actually which really make me reconsider this relationship (ill call her Sam for now)
Hey Sam I missed you where were you?
<friends.
why didnt you tell me?
<why do you always have to get so mad at me user?
I dont Sam I love you I just want to know where you are so I wont have to cancel plans for nothing
<ok
Are you upset?
<no
Just know I care about you
<ok
Shes not cheating on me and I can break up with her without much hassle I just dont want to break her heart (I just dk what she wants)

Blake Long
Blake Long

Also neither of us are really 100% in anything
Im not in the right at all (at least I dont think so)
But shes absolutely in the wrong, waaaaay more than I am

Nolan Peterson
Nolan Peterson

+1 since im trying to lay everything out here
Ive been extremely nice to her so far, very cutesy very laid back very perfect boyfriend-y
So this would be more out of nothing than the 1st world war

Juan Smith
Juan Smith

This sounds extremely tame to me.
You asked he why she didn't tell you where she was, she interpreted this as an attack. When people are attacked, they become defensive.
Something I have often seen in women is that they tend to exaggerate to gain higher ground when they feel attacked. (I'm not saying this is exclusive to women.)
That's why she said you were "always" mad at her.
Can you produce more situations?

Colton Ward
Colton Ward

Don't expect another reply from me today, though. I'm heading to bed now.

Dominic Hernandez
Dominic Hernandez

Thats okay ill just leave it anyways as a reference for others

Joshua Jones
Joshua Jones

Hey sam I need to tell you something
<what is it user?
I like you alot and I just want to tell you how I never want to lose you, you seem so disinterested lately It just really hurts me mang
<Thats okay I just dont want to fuck up ill give you space
dude no I want you to talk more to me
<Yeah but you always go to sleep so early so its your fault
No sam youre just too busy playing vidya to spend time with me,you never compromise or care enough to consider compromisation when we differ and I just dont want to lose you over fucking animal crossing
<ugh stop getting so mad at me, I dont want to talk about it

Or here's another one we had last night talking about the going to sleep early (im really busy travelling for my job)
Hey Sam, about sleeping early and stuff
<yeah?
I really do want to spend more time with you and Im okay with losing time for college if that means I can spend that time with you
<you really dont have to
but I want to! Because I love you Sam
<ok
you want me to?
<I dont care
Sam please just tell me whats up
<I just want to go to sleep user leave me alone

Sorry for being such a Drakefag with her I just try to be as nice as possible lately to keep this relationship going

Aaron Cooper
Aaron Cooper

Sorry to tell you, but you sound overbearing.
You did criticize her for spending too much time playing video games. This is extremely off-putting. In my opinion, that's one of the worst things you can do.
Honestly, I don't know how significant that was, but, personally, I'd go back and apologize for that.

Jeremiah Miller
Jeremiah Miller

when shes not over at my place she responds about once every other hour, she can easily answer me when playing on her DS but nope she just completely ignores me for a bit and then responds with a few words and goes back to animal crossing for 2 hours
The reason I take this way more personal than I should I because when im in the middle of a scene (filmmaker) I still pick up the phone just to text her back
I am overbearing but that still doesnt excuse her behaviour completely ignoring me right?

Jose Phillips
Jose Phillips

I think I'd have to see actual chat logs to make a judgement on this, otherwise we'd just be telling you what you want to hear. She says you're always getting mad at her, but you've abridged the conversation, so we don't know if you are.

If she is as completely disinterested in you as you're putting across I don't see why you bother.

Aiden Martinez
Aiden Martinez

What im really asking for is
how do I break up with her easily and smoothly?
She just said like Im sorry im just SUPER depressed the last 3 days so thats bullshit too knowing what actual depression is like

most real talk is IRL though so I cant show you jack shit
I do get mad if im COMPLETELY honest but only when its necesarry (like she ignores me for a day and then says sorry I was playing animal crossing and got a bit distracted after you said you had to leave for a day)
again refer to what I said first in THIS post I just want to break up im done trying to fix her problems and putting in so much effort and love when never getting it back

Dylan Moore
Dylan Moore

If she was like me, she would ignore you more and more the more often you called her out for it.
I hate it when people tell me what to do and sometimes go out of my way to not do what they tell me to do, even if it's something I would normally do without any impetus.

Honestly, from everything you've said so far, I'd say give her the "It's not you, it's me" routine.

Logan Sullivan
Logan Sullivan

I'm sorry…I can't take this anymore user. She sounds like a childish little cunt, but so do you. Man up a tad and just tell her it's over because of her shit self. Good luck, do it. They post conversation. Do it now.

Angel Allen
Angel Allen

Just dump her you faggot. Start with:
"I don't think this is working"
a reply
"I think we should break up"
whatever happens next
Fin.

Brayden Myers
Brayden Myers

I only called her out on it like twice in our entire relationship, I agree but Ill just tell her
Im sorry Sam, this small talk with long intervals just isnt working for me anymore. I love you I really do but I just cant and will never be able to work with such little time with my honey
I will just give me a sec niggers
Youre right, shes a childish cunt and I am only worsening my own foot to stand on by chickening out so much

Carson Gomez
Carson Gomez

this small talk with long intervals just isnt working for me anymore
Stop putting wiggle room in there you pussy. Do you always play with your food?

Matthew Clark
Matthew Clark

Just do it quick like a band-aid. And it's not your responsibility to fix her, you didn't fuck her up in the first place. Good luck faggot

Christopher Phillips
Christopher Phillips

does this sound better?
Sam I cant fucking take you ignoring me anymore, I really dont care about what youre going through or what you went through a couple years ago, I care about you and I love you but youre not doing enough for this relationship

Angel Jackson
Angel Jackson

If you want a dignified exit, just give her the fucking "It's not you, it's me" routine.
Don't shift any blame on her. It's your opinion that she's not doing enough. You don't want to give her another confirmation that you are overbearing.

Parker Hernandez
Parker Hernandez

Okay this is what I have now
Hey Sam I dont think this is going to work out, Its not because of you nor is it because I dont like you or something. I jjust dont think I should go into a relationship when I cant even appreciate what I have without it continuation?

Lincoln Hughes
Lincoln Hughes

That should work.
This could also give you a bargain chip should she pursue to get you back.

Lastly, don't block her unless she gets petulant. Give her clear warnings about blocking her when she first does.

Matthew Robinson
Matthew Robinson

I did it, dropping screenshot in a bit

Evan Wood
Evan Wood

Wow, I actually made a difference in the world.

Sorry, man.
I would not have pushed this route had you not specifically requested how to end it. Had I been in your shoes, I think I would have stayed.

I wish you the very best for the future.

Jackson Collins
Jackson Collins

Post the aftermath.

Easton Green
Easton Green

with someone as dearly as you
lol, that's not a sentence OP

Brayden Murphy
Brayden Murphy

implying she knows that
nigga she doesnt even know who micheal jackson is

Aiden Diaz
Aiden Diaz

There are quite a few spelling mistakes in there, but it gets the point across.

Robert Cox
Robert Cox

Yeah sorry its 4 am here and im pretty nervous and shaky and the booze is not helping AT ALL

Ethan Nelson
Ethan Nelson

Where are you?

Josiah Sanchez
Josiah Sanchez

At least you actually did something

Like others have said, you are an overbearing little cunt.
where the fuck were you bitch?!
hey bitch I know you're trying to play animal crossing and chill the fuck out but I want to have a deep, serious conversation and I'm going to force you to listen
I """"Love""""" you
you don't know what actual depression is like!
why don't you pay attention to me every second of the day?!
I know from experience that texting someone who bitches at you for not replying within a few seconds is really fucking annoying. I simply don't have the energy to interrupt what I'm doing as soon as I get a text. If I were her, I would've fucked right off a long time ago.

Also, you're probably being cucked.

Luis Flores
Luis Flores

Let me tell you, I was in your exact same place. Same tone of voice, same conversations, thier same attitudes. After months of this, she just straight up told me she was leaving me for someone "better". You did the right thing, OP. She would've beat you in the dirt if you didn't do something about it.

Caleb Hall
Caleb Hall

its not settling down for a nice minute of animal crossing
it settling down for the entire day for 6 days straight playing animal crossing, getting mad at me for not responding
Also I never told her any of these things I just coped with it until now

Thanks dude that means alot to me, she just told me I helped alot with her problems, I said I want to help but if she doesnt tell me how or show me ever when I do i just cant
Then she said fuck off so it OK I guess
I cant help but feel melancholic though, ill just watch seinfeld for a few days untill I feel better

Gabriel Parker
Gabriel Parker

Good choice. When you are done with Seinfeld, I recommend Curb Your Enthusiasm, if you haven't seen it already.

Christopher Bell
Christopher Bell

I said I want to help but if she doesnt tell me how or show me ever when I do i just cant
Literally me. The coalburning cunt left me after I helped her back on her feet, supported her, and swooped her out of crippling depression. Sound familiar?

Jackson Green
Jackson Green

I didn't say you said any of these thing to her. It's that this is your attitude towards her that is the problem. Girls can sense that shit.

Anyway, I wish you luck. Don't get too fucked up about it. Hopefully the next girl you find will actually be on your goddamn wavelength.

Nathan Wilson
Nathan Wilson

What dilemma? Jut say "I want to break up," you raging, dickless faggot.

Dylan Hernandez
Dylan Hernandez

pretty much bipolar
daddy issues

Have you not considered putting her on a leash and dogfucking her while forcing her to call you daddy? That's what I do with all my broken girlfriends.

I've never been mad at someone in my entire life

How the fuck do you people get through life without being mad at people?

Gabriel Rivera
Gabriel Rivera

I was raised in a really laid back just be okay with things kinda household so I never really get passionate about things. It's actually a great way to live if you just want to be mellow and cool with stuff like all the time
It will get you in some trouble relationship wise, Most fetishes seem stupid, cant give advice because youre just cool with stuff, you really have to find a girlfriend raised in the same environment
Its pretty much like youre constantly stoned but you can still think relatively clearly

Wyatt Phillips
Wyatt Phillips

Break up with her and give me her info so I can snatch that pussy.

Aaron Lewis
Aaron Lewis

You sound like a beta.

My prescribed solution: abuse your bipolar onahole and be the daddy she always complains about.