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I know, but that's nonetheless what they believe.

quite fitting, both cases are utter bullshit

why wouldn't the state whither away as it becomes unnecessary?

Unnecessary for whom, the working class? The state is already unnecessary for the working class, since it is an instrument of minority rule. The state will never not be necessary for those whose state of existence is entirely dependent on the state.

Yes
Why exactly? If the state is an insturment of class rule why couldn't a majority class use it to repress the minority classes?
So, nobody since in Communism everyone is a worker just like everyone else.

Books or what?

Because it's not instrument of class rule, that's a bullshit a priori definition Marxists created to justify keeping it around. It is solely an instrument of minority rule.
And how do you reach Communism? The state must be abolished at some point: are the party members and bureaucrats going to abolish it themselves?

I became an ancap mostly through talking and debating, the only book I really read as an ancap was the Most Dangerous Superstition, which is a pretty decent book on authority and anti-statism even now. Reading through An Anarchist FAQ and asking questions here eventually made me ancom.

Methink dialectical materialism still applies: the ruling class will have to be overthrown by the lower class. There are still class under socialism and communism is not the same as socialism.

Good post, very accurate to what happened to me and others I know. Takes a long time to break out of it.

You can keep saying that but what exactly is special about the use of violence to supress one group of people that it can only be utilized if that group is a minority?
The state isn't "abolished" it withers away.
As soon as the revolution begins the state is smashed and replaced with a workers state. Bureaucrats are replaced with democratically ellected workers subject to recall at any time. They wouldn't be leaders mere book keepers and foremen paid workmens wages. When the state becomes unnecessary as productive forces grow to a point where rationing through labor vouchers isn't needed it simply withers away as its function isn't needed.