You like traditional values, so do I.
Some of us have forgotten how it works, and how marriage was supposed to work before cultural arsonists appeared. So here it is.
How it worked:
The father had a duty to find his daughter a husband and so he was given rights to do his duty. These rights were given by tradition and custom to protect his daughter's bridal value.
The father owned the right to chose the daughters marriage.
The father had the right to keep his daughter chaste until marriage.
The father had the right to indoctrinate his daughter in the customs, traditions and faith of his forefathers.
The father had the right to use reasonable force if the daughter did not comply with his father's rightful demands.
A daughter who was not a virgin was less valuable as a wife, she would marry down.
The purpose of marriage was about having and protecting legitimate children, & preserving family wealth. It was not about sexual pleasure or happiness of the couple.
DOWRY:
Some tribes demanded a dowry from the groom's family.
Some tribes demanded a dowry from the bride's family.
The dowry was used to set up the household and shop of the newly wed couple so they could immediately have children and the groom could set up his farm, or workshop of his trade.
Daughter:
The property of the father until married. Property of husband during marriage. If father dies, the daughter becomes the property of her brother. If no brother then she is the property of her uncle (who must find her a husband before her fertility declines).
Groom:
The groom would not ask the daughter to marry him. The groom would ask the father for permission.
Marriage did not have much courtship until the high-middle age, then courtship was common. Courtship was designed to gain the willfulll compliance of the daughter in marriage, and not the unskillful compliance.
Love:
Love is an invention of Renaissance playwrights, it is designed to subvert marriage and encourage your daughter to elope and become damaged goods.
Elopement and seduction of a wife worthy maiden meant that the seducer (man) would have to pay a fine to upgrade your dowry. Or the man would be forced to marry the woman. The father was entitled to duel the stupid man, or disown his daughter.
The son could claim she asked for it if the maiden did not dress modestly. Modest dress meant that the culture had less adultery and extramarital sex.
Abide by these customs and white genocide will be less of an end game