I'll admit to my gender here specifically to say that 90% of this thread is not marriage material.
I am a white, STEM, healthy blonde and at most two people in this thread have fit my qualifications, if it isn't just the same one dude.
As my grandmother always said, the man is the head, the woman is the neck.
Let me explain:
1) Any man I marry must be smarter than me. You earn my respect by proving your superiority as a rational thinker. If I can think 10 steps ahead, you can think 15, and correct me. This gives me motivation to succeed and validation that I chose someone who would genetically improve my children.
2) If you do not have a plan to change the world/make the most from life, go away. This goes hand in hand with rationality. Have a plan, and a backup plan. If you make me feel safe, I will love you until the day I die. A man protects a woman's life and spirit, an woman protects a child's life and a man's spirit, both protect the child's spirit. Those of you in this thread saying women cannot love have simply not given enough attention to her need for security.
3) Anger, need for dominance, these are emotions. If you are emotionally manipulative or unstable, you are not relationship material. Get a life philosophy. Get a purpose. If your purpose is to be blue-collar forever, you are dirt to me. If your purpose is to reproduce, you are an animal, and if I wanted an animal I would go to Nigera and live in the bush.
4)If I can do better without you, I will never respect you, and will aim to do without you. There was a post here- women make men heroes- I will protect and help you reach your dreams if they line up with my own.
For example, say I am a woman who wants to be a politician.
If I could marry someone who wants to be a politician and is -More Devoted/Committed To It Than Me- I would be perfectly happy raising his family and living my dreams through him while being a basic researcher or literate housewife, as I would get all the status and power, and as a bonus get to spend most of my time at home, reading and educating the mini-us on rationality and success. A man must be commited to fighting the outside world because a woman wants to be soft, and be the safe, loving place for her love to come home to and her children to grow in.
5) Ultimately, in order to be a successful man, boys and manchildren must realize that from an evolutionary perspective, men are made to compete and women are made to be selective. So stop bitching and be competitive. You want someone to carry and improve your genes; I want someone to improve and protect my own. No, being dominant without just cause is not good enough. Unfortunately, it takes effort and persistance to be an adult, not just playing to your inner narcissist. A four-year-old can do the latter.
6) You may notice that smart women tend towards research. Our brains are wired for pattern-seeking and information-communication. If you want a girl like me, try a good library or a high-IQ/rationality program. We exist. We stand in the background and marry older men because you young idiots are too busy butting heads and hollering like apes to notice that that's a turn off for any girl that isn't emotionally damaged.
Those of you willing to listen, thank you. Those of you who are halfchan highschoolers, have a nice life being a redneck and never finding a wife you can trust with your heart.
The problem is not them, it's you- you're a fucking moron and no woman on my level would settle for trash, and that's why you have to find a autism waifu or dupe some poor immigrant woman who just wants a better life for her decendants.
I would rather raise a child with my parents from a high-IQ sperm donor, get an arranged marriage, marry someone old, or let my genes die out in full certainty that humanity will never become a space civilization because of idiots before I ever marry one.
If you want your wife to cook, praise her, shield her, and just hint once that you'd appreciate it and she'd do it forever. If you want sex, get her wet and feeling safe, it's not hard if you're a man. If you want respect, deserve it.
Women are the hardest test you will ever take, because we are fighting as strongly for the betterment of our genes as you are.