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What a goddam sissy, that's why you can't be normal and don't have any friend, just thinking about it proves how much of an asocial faggot you are irl.

I guess in someway you're right.

Just talk to people. The only way you can lose in this situation is to not do anything at all. And if you're having problems talking to people, pretend you're above them. Meaning, act like you're better than them. Always try to be in charge of the conversation, but don't come off as condescending. You can also act like you don't care about shit as well. It worked for me when I was in school.
There are always edgy kids at school, trust me. You do not have to be a normie. And even if you can't make friends with the non-normies, making friends isn't big of a deal as long as you don't have to act like one.
That's not that big of a deal tbh.
Brown is the most common eye color. As for skinny, at least you're not fat. Also take off the beanie. People don't like seeing obvious insecurities with people.

Thanks a lot user, this made me feel better and boosted my self-confidence!

nigger, i wanst a normie in highschool, yet I didn't get bullied, you know why?
Cause and effect.

Someone calls you a faggot, you throw a rock at their face, or punch them. Someone pushes you, you make their nose bleed. Show them that you are not to be fucked with.

get /fit/ and get /christian/

t. happy person

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Well, that's another way to deal with it.

Wow, kid. Your problem isn't being a red haired boy; it's being a red haired faggot.
Boo-fucking-hoo. Are you for real? Don't even worry about getting bullied. You're going to get raped acting like that. Get some tampons and put on a dress. Jesus Christ.

What are you even doing in this den of cynical oldfags that can't relate to grade school problems anymore? Give more context, or I'm convinced you're LARPing.

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what a dickbag

Yea, i was being a huge faggot writing that.

Tbh i don't know, my life's a mess and i don't feel like socializing. In some sort of way this feels like where i belong, like minded people, same humor etc.

DO THIS OP
it'll raise your confidence and turn you into a not insecure person that's also stronk

you can be a normie on the outside as long you stay a degenerate Holla Forumstard on the inside.

I'll always be a Holla Forumstard on the inside i guess.

I haven't been a NORP in elementary school and I wasn't a NORP in High School. People did try to bully me, but frankly, since I used to exercise a lot and had a good punch, I managed to change their mind. I used to be very persuasive, when I put my mind to it.

But if you try to fit in by changing who you are, that's not good. Not to mention, there are plenty of people, who'll like you the way you are. If you must, have a "civil" face, which is a toned down more polite version of you and a face you will only show to people, you know either share, don't mind or actually like that side of you.

Oh come on, you don't hit guys on the ground. That's just pathetic.

Thanks for sharing your experience user, maybe i'm making too much big of a thing of everything.

Someone'll hopefully see who I am and like me for that.

is that you?

No, i'd never share images of myself on a place like this.

It's ok to be scared of change, dear Underage B&. We all feel anxiety or uneasiness when our life changes. That's why there are so many hikikomoris on 8ch. They are too scared to make a change.

Feeling anxiety is not a bad thing. You just have to find a way, how to overcome it.

Even though I used to work out a lot and read even more, and I was always fairly tall, I felt quite a bit insecure. I mean: I'd let people tease me, because as long as they were using words, I felt it unjust to beat them up. And once we were in a fight, I couldn't hit before I received a hit first… on the other hand I was good at taking hits and once I got into it, I was quite good at dishing them out…

All you have to do is: Find your own way. If you feel like working out, it's good for your health and to a degree for your self-confidence. Just one pro-tip: Don't become a bully. It's one thing to defend yourself or a friend. It's something completely different to just show off, that you can kick someone's ass, although it's very tempting at times.

ok great

now become /fit/

This means more than you think.

Antisocial behavior and depression is associated with high serotonin levels. Anxiety is associated with high stress hormones and lack of magnesium. You can fix a lot by eating differently and getting plenty of red light exposure. You aren't doomed into staying as an edgy faggot if you understand how the basics of your environment shape you.

I guess it's all simple when you think about it, but i'll just have to work on it. I knew Holla Forums could make you feel better.

Keep your chin up, princess.
raypeat.com/articles/articles/serotonin-depression-aggression.shtml

I'm happy I could have been of help.

I thought of another analogy:
Have you ever stood in front of a pool, not wanting to jump in, because the water was cold?

What did you do? Try to get in slowly? That feels quite unpleasant.

But if you take a deep breath and jump straight in, you'll realize, that while not entirely pleasant, it isn't that bad.

Also: Getting /fit/ - don't start with lifting weights. First do exercises with your own body, squats, pushups, sit-ups and stretching. I expect, that you are in your teens, so if you don't eat too much junk-food, you should be able to do some fairly good progress.

Biking uphill is a very good exercise for your legs and back and won't hurt your joints as much as jogging on asphalt.

If you want to start lifting, do so only once push-ups feel so mundane, that you have to watch TV while doing them, because you otherwise feel bored, since it's taking over 20 minutes >.>

Otherwise you might do significant harm to your joints.

Many things in life are simple. Doesn't make them easy. I'm going to borrow a line from one of my favourite book series:
"It's like lifting a car engine. It's simple, but not easy."

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This was a very good example user!! and made me look on it from a different aspect.

I have never been a sport type person ever, i have never exercised (for real) in my life, and my body often feel stiff. that's probably an effect of never exercising. It's not that i get fat from sitting in all day, rather quite skinny (probably genes)

redhead struggles ;___;

You sound like your muscles won't grow too big without making big changes to your diet. On the other hand, that isn't too bad, you still can get quite strong and fast and have great endurance. I have a similar body type.

Don't worry about not getting bigger.

I mean, I was able to defend myself and beat up guys who looked stronger than me. It leaves quite an impact on everyone if a guy who looks skinny [ emphasized by the fact, that I liked wearing clothes a bit bigger, than necessary ^_^; ] puts a bigger guy on the ground with little to no effort.

It sucks having red hair, people have hella' stereotypes (obviously).

What's with westerners and gingers… I never understood it. I mean, I knew a few red headed girls and most of them were extremely fuckable… although a bit klutzy, which made them even more adorable.

Sounds like getting /fit/ is what i need to do. It'll be hard because i'm not used to it, but i'm sure it'll turn out good!

Well, if you do it right, you'll also learn a valuable lesson on pushing your own limits.

Good luck.

think of it this way
blond aryans genocided the ginger pre-aryans in europe
it's an old racial hatred, nobody knows why it's so but it's so deeply ingrained in culture

I have blue eyes and as a kid I was blond. I still like gingers. Blue eyed, green eyed or brown eyed, doesn't matter. Curly or wavy hair, doesn't matter either. I just like how they look.

ew i hate that word. where i live people say hella all the time. it's like life is strange in real life

Life is a complicated thing. But once you get past most of your insecurities and stop caring about what other people think of you or how they view you, you'll see everything differently.

I managed to learn this quite soon in my life, basically in Elementary school. It meant that I'd never really fit in with many people, but since I wasn't stupid and was rather mature for my age, for various reasons [ the price for that wasn't really small ], as people start growing up, they will start respecting you.

Oh the stories of my female classmates on how unapproachable to them I seemed. Christ. We first had to start walking our separate ways and after years, when I met some of them drunk, they'd complain on how I never noticed them… and when I said:
"But I was sitting basically next to you every other break, chatting to all of you. How was I unapproachable?"
"But you were only looking at Monica!" [ Monica was a very good looking, but very stupid bimbo. I liked to tease her around a bit ]
"I was talking to all of you, but I was mostly teasing her. I mean, I'd stay and chat even once she'd run off, didn't I?"
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Gods, spare me the crying of drunk former classmates.

So many wholesome posts. Cesspool on the outside, place of healing on the inside. Never change Holla Forums

It's what loved about Holla Forums since 2004 ^_^;

Now, should I erect another wall of text or open a bottle of vodka.

Decisions, decisions…

Well, you should be glad that he's here rather than 4chan tbh. We need new blood that aren't total tumblerinas. If you think newfags are bad, everyone was a newfag at one point. And if you think it's sad we're getting new users, just think about it. Our population could have been replaced by people who don't understand our ways and have no concept of imageboard culture. Just look at 4/b/. Half of it is just porn threads, many of which is disgusting cuck bullshit. And the rest is YLYL tier or worse. The terrible thing is, is just how fast everything is. You make a thread and it will be gone in 2 minutes if people don't take interest in it right away (which could be a good thread gone down the toilet. He's much better off here than that shithole, trust me.

Agreed. Many of the current oldfags started on 4chan when they were in their teens. And I don't mean the silly summerfags wanna-be-tough-guys.

Op here.

My journey with imageboards began over at 4chan, but i realised that within a minute of posting a thread it'd be saged down by all the porn threads. What I like about Holla Forums is that there are le

what i meant was:

One more thing: You'll keep encountering various things in your life that might seem difficult or hard.

The important thing is to not be afraid of overcoming them. Sure, it may feel a bit uncomfortable at first, but once you start actually doing the work, you might realize, that it's not so difficult. And as you make progress in various fields, you'll be more and more comfortable in doing more new things.

It's like with learning at school. If you just go there to sit there, you'll get bored. As long as you don't understand what the things you're learning are for, you most probably won't like school much. But once you understand, why you learn what you learn, and how it builds on things you've learned previously, it'll make more sense. It might even become a bit enjoyable [ not always, but hey, it's not just all about fun … although, I still like learning new things ]. You might want to read up more on subjects you like, maybe even get ahead of your class [ you'll be more bored in class, if your teacher is an idiot, or you could get into interesting discussions with them, if they are not ]. This may sound weird, but it's a valuable skill for many jobs. In various jobs you will have to learn new things, new practices, go to training classes and if you dislike such things, it will be more difficult for you to get a better job / promotion and earn more money.

I also strongly suggest learning at least one foreign language as soon as you can. Learning languages can be done even without a teacher, if you are lucky enough to find the right sources.

This is a complex topic and to properly cover it, I'd probably have to write a lot more… but I don't really want to bore you and push too much information at once.

Another wall of text erected. Now I'm going to do some drinking.

Thanks user, this is some great advice!

I do like programming, I find it very relaxing and enjoyable.

I didn't tell him to leave, and I first saw 4chan at age 13 in 2003 myself. I don't really care what brand of newfags arrive. My attachment to this place is the same as a nomad's attachment to the ground below his tent. All I want to know is who is going to take responsibility for my massive erection after reading this thread about a vulnerable young girl afraid of being bullied. As a matter of fact, I'd be happy to bully someone right now. Erotic roleplay threads are only good for causing frustration.

Coding is fun. You'll need to learn some advanced math to properly analyze efficiency of your code from a time and memory perspective.

I can also wholeheartedly recommend reading up on how Databases work, how OSs are structured and maybe some bits on networks.
And learning application design [ UML: ERD, DFD, Class diagram, Use Case Diagram ] could land you some sweet and well paid jobs. You don't need to be an expert in all those fields, but coders who don't have a proper understanding of what their code is working with tend to do stupid mistakes.

- one more rule to remember, regarding programming: If you are designing an application for a customer, the key part is understanding, how his business is functioning and how the users interact with the application. Otherwise there will be a shitload of bickering users and neverending updates that break parts of your previous code because of something you've long since forgotten about.

Also this: stilldrinking.org/programming-sucks

It's a very well written humorous story about how the world of software development is.

Op here.
Maybe i didn't make it clear enough, but i'm a male. Sorry for your erection.

I'm afraid, you just ruined his world.

Although I would have been pleasantly surprised, if you were female ^_^

Yea coding is truly fun.

I got diagnosed with ADD, so it's kinda hard for me to focus on things that i'm not interested in.

But sometimes when we have math in school, i motivate myself to learn because it'll improve my coding skills!

Yea coding is truly fun.

I got diagnosed with ADD, so it's kinda hard for me to focus on things that i'm not interested in.

But sometimes when we have math in school, i motivate myself to learn because it'll improve my coding skills!>>7189204

Yea coding is truly fun.

I got diagnosed with ADD, so it's kinda hard for me to focus on things that i'm not interested in.

But sometimes when we have math in school, i motivate myself to learn because it'll improve my coding skills!

What was that thing that just flew over your head, kiddos?

Oh god, posted three times. Oh well.

I'm afraid I did.

It looked like mayo squirted out of… I don't believe, that I wish to think about it more.

Also: I'm too hairy to be called a kid. Though I do have a ponytail ^_^; [ was too lazy to go to see my barber… for about 2 years. ]

Working out might actually help out with the ADD. Once you get into it, you'll probably be calmer and able to focus a lot better.

Jocks who like to pick on other people are jocks who haven't been pushed by their trainer properly.

Thanks, working out seems to be good for me.
I can relate, haven't gone to the barber for a really long time (again, social anxiety) my hair's a mess.

Oh, I don't actually have social anxieties. I simply have a persona for talking to normies.

This might actually work out for you too, in theory: Imagine a persona you would want to have to talk to normies. You'll be basically acting out a character. It's not too different from submerging into a character in a book or a movie.

Compile the character traits you want that persona to have, build and deploy when necessary. It's kinda roundabout way to overcome your social anxieties, but it might be a bit easier. Think of it like wearing an invisible mask.

Is it hard/scary the first times doing it?

And no, I never had any real social anxieties. The reason I ended up creating a persona for talking to NORPs is because that persona is more polite, talks more mildly than I normally do, curses a lot less and talks in a softer voice. If I were to track these things individually, it would be a pain in the ass, so I took some NLP principles, mixed them with some acting principles and some other things and made my life easier.

That strongly depends on how well you develop the persona. If you can make it a bit more cheerful and if you can stay in character, then not really. If you make mistakes in preparation, you might feel anxiety. You have to create a character/persona well and stick to it while being in places you might feel uncomfortable.

If you do it by tweaking your existing traits, maybe mute some traits and enhance others, you should be able to do it. I can't promise, that it will go well, but like with everything, practice makes perfect.

In my case I simply have to regulate me being a choleric. So, to make things easier I took a cheerful polite female character as a basis and molded the rest of my traits accordingly.

I don't really know, how to explain the process, the closest I can come to is: I created a character, slipped into it and one part of me is simply sitting back and watching as the story unfolds, while the rest of me is acting it out.

The important thing is, you have to create the character relatable to you as much as possible, while making it also able to interact with other people.

For me personally, the most difficult thing in my life to not take myself and life too seriously. Granted, I had reasons for it, but that still doesn't change the fact, that once I learned to laugh at myself, I felt insane freedom.

I mean, sure, at the age of 15 I was correcting grammar mistakes and wrong formulations in the contracts my father was writing or a year later I had to play hookie on one Friday, because we were traveling to buy a truck and I had to come along as the interpreter, or, for some reasons, I was familiar with formal etiquette and actually had moments, when I liked being all formal and polite [ don't ask me about that one, never figured out, why I have tendencies to be all stuck up at times ] or since my younger brother was into some shenaningans, that could land him in serious trouble, I was reading and able to comprehend and interpret criminal law …

And then there was this other thing: I always viewed other people as my equals. I didn't realize that I'm actually a lot smarter, than most of them [ well, even if I had, it probably wouldn't really change anything, I still view people as my equals, most of the time ] and I remember feeling very surprised, when people didn't know what I knew or had the skills I viewed as mundane and common [ like being fluent in a foreign language and using it grammatically correctly. BTW, English used to be my 3rd language for a long time ^_^; ].

If you are smarter than other people, it's good to realize it. Not because you are supposed to think less of them or feel superior. It's to avoid stupid misunderstandings, when you think, that you are saying something perfectly simple and clear and the other party has trouble just following, what you are saying, forget understanding. Because then the other party feels like you are mocking them and posing as superior. This one is very tough to crack and up until today I have to approach on a case-by-case basis. Adjust the way I speak, the words I use and how I present them. This one is not easy nor simple… but if you are in a similar position, and I suspect, that you are, it's something that you should keep in mind. It might make the interaction with people easier.

What's the story behind the gif?
I've seen this image before.

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This was an amazing read. This seems like a good way of life. I'm pretty young now and probably won't understand all of this right now, but i hope i will later on in my life.

Also, i'm not english either. Sometimes I have a hard time expressing myself, sorry if my grammar isn't the best.

I don't really know, just saw it getting posted here and saved it.

JUST

Good luck with whatever you're doing!

Sure about that? Your writing style is too cute to be from a guy. On the other hand, I've never seen a woman writing like that either. It's just my 2D fantasies running wild.

Oh, your English is ok. Don't worry about it.

нет проблема :D

Also: Don't worry about understanding all of it. It's not really about age, it's mainly about your experience. That's what people actually mean by "you're too young". Many individuals believe, that what they derive their conclusion from is their age, when it's just experience. Either their own or second hand. It's silly, but this I cannot change, only explain.

I am trying to find a crossdresser/femboy/feminine twink atm to fuck and be in a romantic relationship with.
I went to a dating portal and even started sexting with a very cute one, but I randomely ghosted them all, because of my own insecurity and a bit of akward anticipation about losing my virginity to something gay.

Currenly trying to lose weight (I am not fat, I just want to get more defined features) for a confidence boost.

And trying to start with the online shit.

Uhhm, i don't know what to say. I guess that's how i write lol, i'm swedish so my english isn't that good.

That's suprising, well i'm a guy lol.

I understand, that's why i don't reveal my age often here. But in this case i felt like I had too.

I know I may be too young for this site and there's a reason why it's 18 +, but whatever.

Whatever makes you more confident!

Actually, there's no rule about you having to be 18+ on Holla Forums. Only on 4chan that's an actual rule. However, on some boards you can get banned for being underage here. It's just not a global rule, understand?

Yea, maybe i'm mistaken.

I am kinda torn. I am straight and this is not a meme. I would never suck a dick. I don't want to bottom.

But I want a deep friendship with another guy. Even romantic.

But since I don't want to suck his dick (even gay tops suck dick), that really limits my options.

I don't really want to get with girls now. I don't really feel a deep emoptional connection with them.

I don't know, I just want a cute bf who is also my best friend. I don't want a gf who just wants my money or randomely sleep around.

Well, the laws aren't perfect, because the have to be applied as globally as possible.

As for not revealing your age on a *chan … well I think I don't have to elaborate on that one.

But I think that I should give you a fair warning: IIRC, I started on 4chan, when I was about 16. By that time I had a pretty dark sense of humour [ serves me very well nowadays, for medical reasons LOL ] and I have to admit, that 4chan did change me a lot to be darker, more cynical and a proper bastard at times… but also a whole lot caring in some way. I can't say, whether I'd recommend it or not. This depends solely on your life experience.

Let me give you a bit context from my life: I visited my first funeral around the age of 5. The first time I've seen a person die in front of me was the age of 7 and the person was my mother. The things didn't get much prettier onwards. But I'm quite stubborn, so I keep going, with occasional breakdowns, when I simply get totally drunk and do some crying, because the alternative would be to become either a sociopath or go entirely insane.

Damn user. I want to hug you.

aww

Oh, i don't think you know how much i've seen.

I'm already messed up browsing chans and other places, i've seen rape, gore, torture, animal abuse.. i can go on. These are some reasons my way of thinking really changed.

fuck you, I am out of here

I knew this would happen

That's decades ago. I don't need a hug anymore ^_^ , although I am able to provide calming hugs, if necessary. I'm just stating facts. By now it's just another fact of my life.

Hmm, it looks like some fun-lovers want to destroy this small oasis of peace and understanding we built over here. Oh well, it's Holla Forums ^____^

Dress like a normie, start following a popular sport, find a popular normie TV show or vidya game, hide your power level as best you can. If you can fake your way through an enite conversation with a normie, you've made it.

It's Holla Forums, what did you expect? I'm just surprised, that they didn't come in sooner and that we managed to actually have a proper discussion.

You've given me a lot of tips user. Thank you for that, i'm sure they'll help me in life.

Read the thread, before you post, you illiterate twice sodomized bald hedgehog.

I do hope so. I also hope, that I formulated them in a way that actually can help you. I'm not worried, that you are not smart enough, I just realized, that I formulated some things in a way, that might not be easily comprehensible without more context.

If you feel like it, try calling out to me. I'm not on *chans very often, but If I am, I'd be happy to talk to you more [ that's why I did some namefag posts ]… or you could try talking to Anayx on 8ch IRC. She's nice. A bit naive, but nice.

Thanks a lot!!

But don't you have an email address, an irc channel where you often hangout etc?

Actually, don't even lower your standards when talking to someone. Sure, if you have a feeling someone isn't getting what you're saying, then comply and break down the complexity of your syntax and vocabulary. But never ever hide your intelligence. People neither hide their athletic prowess or musical talent, and by showing that you offer more than your average Joe some people might be inspired by and want to learn about various topics from you, and some will despise you just for being better than them (in one aspect everyone thinks they're good at).

There's a saying in my mother tongue which translates into: If someone wants something from you, don't pick them up where they stand, instead they shall come to you.

Have a link about the ingrained anti-intellectualism in our society: quora.com/Why-do-some-people-dislike-smart-people

If you talk to Anayx and tell her my name from here, I'm sure she'll know, who I am. She knows, how to reach me. It's not my IRC handle, but she will know anyways.

Oh, one more thing: Anayx is not always using the same nick. Just try shouting out to her, she'll respond, if she's on-line.

Okay, i'll probbaly talk to her tommorow!

If she's nasty to you, don't mind it. Just bite through it and ask her about me.

Sure!

While you're there, also consider visiting #schizoid. Ask for the operator and wait.

How about you tell the class, what the channel is about?

Sure, I will. But tommorow tho. (Too tired right now)

I can't believe no one has suggested OP become a trap yet.

You have one option user, start taking HRT shots and rename yourself Rebeca. Maybe a cuteboy will pitty your disfigured body and mind and cum in your boypussy.

That was harsh

Because their trying to actually help o_o

they're*

How about you just visit and let the big bad internet boogeymen get you?

You see, that's why you don't get users on youd beloved irc channel. No do us all a favour and fukk off with that shilling.

Entirely correct. Or in the parlance of an unnamed anime: "Eres correcuto!"

I just want to corrupt the innocent… or maybe to help them. I don't want users, only your smile and to lift your heart to higher ground. Yes, that will do, but you'll never know. I don't intend to waste your time. Come if you're hungry for something different, or don't.

Shitposting or not, that actually works.

Does your skin redden easily?

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Well, kind of. I have to put on extra sunscreen when i'm in the sun, so i guess :^)

still suprised this thread is alive tbh, guess its due to the low pph.

Dye your hair. Nobody likes gingers

How do you know my personality isn't great :^)

Try Drinking. Everything will get blurry and disappear.

1 what grade are you going into?
2 where do you live? (country/general region)

You must have a pale bottom then.

there's nothing easier than portrayal. learn it while you're young, will help you later on. stop being a beta faggot, listen to something that gives you motivation/boost, and off you go to blend in.