Imageboards Ruin Your Life

Who else feels like imageboards ruin your life?

I used to have friends, a life, a job, and future prospects.

Now I have none of these things.

Let's face the facts guys: all of us started coming on imageboards because we were frustrated, alienated teenagers, looking for friendship, looking for the solutions to our many problems (girls not liking us, not being attractive enough, not having enough status, that sort of thing)

And then you think "hey look, everybody here thinks like I do, this is great! Finally I've found people with the same acerbic opinion of the world that I have. I'm going to stay here, this is a funny place!"

Well I've been on 4chan since 2007 and Holla Forums since 2015. What did it get me? Nothing. I've become more alienated from my ACTUAL, REAL LIFE friends. My relationships with girls have been miserable failures, because I've stayed a very insecure person (probably because the chans make you think that if you're not Chad Thundercock going to the gym every day, then you're not an "Alpha Male™" and you're therefore inadequate and undesirable).

The chans just lure you into permanent adolescence. It's so very ironic that Holla Forums is so obsessed with the idea of having a white family, something they'll never have. Because they paint themselves into a corner. Stuck in their bedrooms, addicted to a messageboard. You don't meet girls like that!

I've been serving a 4chan ban the last few days and it forced me to confront my addiction, since I can't post on there now. It's just bullshit. These sites are cancer. ABSOLUTE FUCKING CANCER. THEY ARE STEALING YOUR LIFE. YOU ARE THROWING YOUR LIFE AWAY BY STAYING HERE.

Okay, enjoy your virginity.

Yeah, bullshit. As I say, I've been on these fucking websites for TEN FUCKING YEARS. While I was at school… while I was at university… while I was in a job… and while I was NEET. So much time, so many phases of my life, have passed while I have been a user of these sites (sometimes the use was infrequent/occasional, when I had more going on in my life).

The thing is that the imageboard becomes your emotional fallback. This NECESSARILY results in emotional immaturity. While your friends are learning to turn to *their real life friends* when they have setbacks (or themselves, or sometimes their family too), you are turning to an internet messageboard filled with anonymous strangers.

This is why your social life is rubbish. This is why your relationships with girls always mess up. You are not an independent human being. Instead you are a chan loser, and you know it. You have this secret that you keep from people. You know that if anything hurts you in the real world, you can just turn to the imageboards and start a thread about "the normies" acting in such a hilariously "normie" way. It's your emotional comfort, and you are not learning to be emotionally resilient on your own two feet.

Accept my advice or don't, but you shouldn't come to this website anymore, or 4chan either. You should leave here forever. And make a life for yourself.

The only thing imageboards actually ruined for me was just my sleeping schedule

That too - but if you're saying it hasn't fucked with your real life, your social life, your career, your love life, then you're lying.

Exactly.

You sound like yet another normalfag that even after apparently years of being on imageboards still values their virginity over everything else in the world, if you won't stop going to imageboards at the very least stop coming to Holla Forums, the last thing we need is more normalfags like yourself shitting up the place with threads like this.

I do frequent this place when there's nothing for me to do, but I can't really say that it's ruined my social life. An increasing majority of people are becoming alienated in their own ways with technology. For the normal person, they're alienating themselves using social media, and if you look at it, the way they alienate themselves isn't much different than the way we do it. The only difference is that they put their real information out there, using "real people" as an emotional feedback. It's their own way to make themselves feel like they aren't alone, when they actually are.

I've been off of chans for awhile, and been out in society. People don't socialize anymore like they used to, because everyone's in their own little bubble.

I assure you that if any "normalfag" were to delete their facebook and ask his "friends" to call him for christmas, then his phone will end up wasting his electric bill from never ringing.

Never had those things to begin with. For the first year a NEET, I felt absolutely horrible- but going around the various boards actually changed my life for the better. /fit/ inspired me to get /fit/ and take better care of my body, /ck/ made me give cooking a chance, fucking draw/OC threads made me pick up a productive hobby and Holla Forums made me want to give back to society.
If I hadn't gone on imageboards I would've ended up on some normalfag social media platform and become a mindless leftist drone. I would've continued my life of being a beta orbiter that solely exists to make Chad look good. I'm fucking glad imageboards ruined my life.

I blame Holla Forums too. Seriously fuck this place. It made me forget to pay my water bill. Now i have an opioid and loli porn addiction.This place will destroy lives and to prove it i'm taking a trip around the country to do seminars on my experience. To attend one of these events send me 500 bucks in advanced for one ticket. God bless.

My social life was shit before imageboards, and that's my own fault. Imageboards didn't get me expelled from high school. Imageboards didn't make me lose contact with all my friends(I'd blame video games for that if I needed an excuse other than general laziness). After I quit playing video games during gamergate, I started spending all my time on here.

If anything imageboards helped me keep up my ability to socialize, and caused me to seek self improvement after becoming redpilled. My social life has been steadily improving since January as I've made the changes necessary to be able to put myself out there more. I never stopped coming here though. You could argue this place is holding me back, or slowing me down but if it wasn't this it would be something else. There's only so much time I want to spend outside the house before I feel exhausted by it.

So basically, by using that word, you admit "yes, I am a fucking loser with no prospects in life". Thank you for proving my point.

No, the exact opposite. I value NOT being a virgin. Do you not? Are you a virgin, and you like being one?


To an extent I do think you're right, yes. Social media addiction is also a problem.

My friends use social media perhaps a little more than I do - I probably used to use it about the same amount as them. I despise people who overuse it, yes. But at least when my friends use it, they're talking to their real life friends.

The best thing, I think, is to not let yourself get addicted to the internet at all. The internet has lots of useful resources, but life exists outside of this bubble.

Good to hear.

Again I agree to an extent; not entirely though. Of my Facebook friends (some I know well, some are just acquaintances), some are avid users of social media, others are only occasional users. And like I say, even if you do find yourself getting addicted to social media a bit (in which case, all you have to do is take a break from it) - at least you're interacting with real people who you actually know. Building your real life social network.

Yes that's true. Doesn't mean you have to be addicted to Facebook though. I went on my Facebook news feed for the first time in months yesterday. I stay in touch with people through Messenger and WhatsApp, so I never really go on the Facebook site itself anymore.


I've been down the rabbit hole you describe, my friend. Thinking that you've found the redpill. And also going to the gym - yes, I did all that.

My opinion is that the path you're going down is a dead end. It won't lead you to the greatness you think it will.

Real life will though. Since you go on Holla Forums, I hope you are familiar with Jordan Peterson. He is seriously the only person on Holla Forums that you should actually listen to, because he's actually a functioning human being, integrated into society. I'm not saying you should be exactly like him - the guy's a bit depressive. But he lays it out like it really is. One thing he says is that we all have to accept that life comes with an enormous amount of suffering. He's absolutely right. If you want anything good in life, you have to accept that there is suffering involved. Also he's right that you have to shoulder responsibility if you want to get anything good.


Le so funni, my sides are le orbiting le planet xD

Depends on what America achieves in their plans for world dominance. You keep it clean and tidy but after a while you get lazy and make a mess everywhere. Backups are good. Some people remember it only when HDD crashes. A man of European ancestry puts a paper on a car - it's floaty and I see myself as 16 in a hallway in love with a girl like Allison Reynolds. Teenage rebellion is a myth pushed on parents starting in the 50's, and it's a self-fulfilling prophecy because it preaches that they should never have a strong hand in raising their children. A lot of kids are just doing this kind of thing because they simply don't know any better, not because they're rebelling against their parents. Raise your children with a proper set of morals for them to understand the world with and they won't have to flounder without guidance in their teenage years making a fool of themselves. I might go scouring for free furniture, fix it up and try and flip it on ebay. Dive in and bring back what you find. Reading in bed right before you are about to sleep is also good for remembering (10-20 minutes of reading), but only on Holla Forums? You must take out the funny bone without touching the sides. The male body is more than willing to sacrifice itself for the slightest chance of impregnating some female. It's like these faggots who simply won't understand the legal implications of 19th Amendment prohibition, and want to undermine it's disenfranchised constitionality! The fact the transgendered people that get sex changes exist should imply that bodies do imply gender. Yes, if you get up off your ass, eat more fibre and don't spend 30 minutes on the toilet to take a 30 second dump. I can improve anything about myself that it's changeable, but I cannot change those around me for those that I can't. To impregnate her with my seed, so that my genes will live on after I die - sort of like nature's way of reincarnation. Just don't get too emotional about it, neither don't get too excited or too furious. The logical thing to do would be to give back the medal. So, if you want to be to be truly fulfilled during the short time you exist in this universe, I would recommend you seek to know yourself and who you are, and resolve to undertake a personal journey to that end. And may you find enlightenment along the way.

But they do keep you here, instead of living your life.

Okay. I mean obviously it's up to you - and like I say, I have spent many years of having a social life, and also coming on imageboards. But I have realised that it hasn't helped me. My friends do not go on these imageboards (because they have more important things to do, like hanging out with friends, and getting with girls, and having jobs, and generally living life).

I used to socialise with them a lot. I used to think I could go on 4chan/Holla Forums and I could keep that part of myself separate from my real world life. But actually I think it has created a barrier between myself and the world. Instead of throwing myself into social opportunities, I have chained myself to this idea that I am an outsider (which is what the whole imageboard mentality is defined by - being an outsider)

My friends have been outsiders too, that's why I made friends with them I guess, but they threw themselves into social situations - and I did as well, to a degree, but not as much.

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So now you're too much of a normalfag to fit in on imageboards and too much of a loser to fit in with your normalfag friends, you really have it figured out huh? If you want to be a preachy faggot know it all at least get your shit together first.

I was like that at one point, but then I forced myself to get into any social opportunity that comes up. I guess it kinda happened by chance for me because my story definitely isn't typical. I started by improving myself in various ways(working out, stop watching porn, cut down on fapping, quit drugs and alcohol).

After that some missionaries came to my door and talked to me about God and the church. It was perfect timing since I was at the point in my improvement that I wanted to start getting out there. I joined the church, and have been going ever since. Now I force myself to get involved in any social opportunity that comes up. From there I have made friends, met girls, and had plenty of opportunity to socialize. I haven't had to stop coming to imageboards, just change some things about myself.

Besides going to church every sunday, there is an activity on every monday, and I go with a girl to these free classes that teach more about the gospel every tuesday. Every other day of the week is open to whatever else there is to do such as hang out with my non church friend, or any other church activities that may be going on.

How did this normalfag get here

Imageboards aren't responsible for your dysfunctionality any more than forks are responsible for people being fat. They didn't ruin your life, OP. YOU ruined your life by not maintaining self control over it. It is VOLUNTARY. And you were too weak to fucking push a little fucking power button, so now your life is shit. It is YOUR fault, so quit trying to blame someone or something other than yourself. It makes you sound all Clinton-y.

I really see where you're coming from, but the dose makes the poison. Imageboards have the unique ability to place you on an extremely high horse. Many habits, affiliations, identities of people are utterly hated here. The way distaste of something is expressed on imageboards is as harsh as the english language, images and dawkin memes allow for, because of the brutal evolution that took place on the most aggressive discussion platform in human history. These expressions and demeanors could never exist in real life, because they require so much hostility that an open fight would've long started. Recommending suicide while trying to come off as genuine as possible, smug amusement of the opponents implied pathetic existence, in a million different permutations.

If you let this get to your head, it'll ruin your social skills for good. These ways of thinking are not applicable in real life communication, you'll either turn into a complete outcast or you'd have to fake it all your life while having nothing but greentexted insults in your head when looking at people. A blend of arrogance, cynicism and nihilism fucks your brain up and you'll never be happy again.

But imageboards can also improve your life. The blunt, painfully honest outlook on life saved me from going into a horrible career direction. The hostility towards fat people and beta numales motivated me to get /fit/. My political positions drastically changed for the better, im a lot less gullible and i think i have a good ability to judge people accurately based on a short impression. I also have a healthy amount of friends, i just don't talk to them in all honesty and i despise some of them, and im not a virgin, even though admittedly out of pure luck.

Imageboards can turn you into a bitter old man by the time you're 21, it's your decision whether you use the experience or die from the misery.

In retrospect it was pretty fucking lulzy though.

I feel like I ruined my own life and imageboards were the only form of socialization I've been able to resort to in times of extreme loneliness for more than a decade until I recently stopped being a complete faggot and graduated into a semi-faggot that actually talks to people once in awhile, but still relies on shitholes like this as a vent to spill my real thoughts unto the internet.
If the imageboards weren't there for you to isolate yourself with then you would have found some other internet tool to fuck your own life.

You cant spill your real thoughts in real life thats why you do it here, I dont understand why you think its a shithole.

It's a shithole because nearly everything about it is an insincere shitpost fest that can explode in your face on a moment's notice and only doesn't affect your actual life by virtue of being an anonymous gathering point.
Imageboards are fun, but that doesn't mean they're high quality sites to hang around.

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