They are out there. I found mine in the least likely of places… A dive bar I was drowning my sorrows at. Your life tends to reflect the reality your brain believes you deserve. I'm going to impart some wisdom, bear with me. If you think you are a shut in neet chances are that will never change. But if you believe you are better than what you are right now you will fix it. I could write a book on this aspect alone but go watch that motivational trump video from the 80s or early 90s where some woman asks him how to be successful and he tells her exactly what I just said "I can tell just from looking at you that you are a great person. You have to believe you are the best, you can't just think it… You have to believe it". Its referred to as 'the secret' and all it is is memetic warfare on a personal level.
Now back to the question. Before I found my wife I was at my personal rock bottom. I was nursing wounds from Iraq and was losing the battle, living in a shit apartment slowly circling the drain toward an early death. As gay as it is the song 'dig' by iirc incubus came on the radio. I stood up, took a good hard look in the mirror and got pissed. I started thinking 'I am better than this, I refuse to lose.'. I then decided that the next female I had sex with or spent any type of romantic time with would be the one I marry so I better make sure she is a good one. I turned down a lot of hot ass after I made this decision. And I'm glad I did or I would have been led astray.
But anyway.. I sat down and took a personal inventory on what is important to me in a woman. I decided that intellect and personality was a high priority, looks were important too but as long as she was able to pass good genetics she didn't have to be a god tier 10/10.
off topic I'm smoking outside.. A couple in their late 60s just walked by talking about 'these kids are supposed to be smart.. Their stupid.. Its all the university teachers.. They are socialists teaching our kids.. How does our country allow this? Kek brought a joyful tear to my eye
Anyway so I met this girl. I wasn't trying to get laid because I decided I wasn't getting laid til I found the one. Turns out we had great conversations and when I brought up red pills she was receptive even though she was blue pilled. So I continued talking to her over the course of months. Eventually I decided that she was most likely the one for me because she had the intelligence to hold a conversation, would be red pilled eventually if I put in the effort which took a while but was worth the struggle and was a very cute average, with a nice body. The thing with cute average is they tend to be beautiful when they smile. Definitely remember that. Don't get caught up in trying to get the hottest slag, ive had them all… cute average is by far the best in every aspect.
Now since I thoroughly vetted her and in the process had her dying for me over the course of months the first time I hung out with her for the specific purpose of us spending time together was great. And 3 months after that I had managed to save up $3k by busting my ass and asked her to move with me. A week later we were in Florida. Busted my ass for 11 months doing fucking day labor work and manage to get enough together for a down payment on a house, that same month she gave me a son.
What ever you want for your life… Its out there if you want it badly enough. I went from being a wounded veteran flirting with suicide to having a wife, a kid and a house for them to live in. I started talking to her April '13, asked her out the end of june, asked her to move with me in September, moved in october, busted my balls working like hell and had a house and a kid that next September. All that in 16 months.
If you want what I wanted, and got, you have to sit down and make yourself promises that you will keep no matter what. You have to be determined to set yourself on a path of self growth. And when you get knocked to your knees, even if it takes a while… You gotta get back up.
Start eating right, start getting exercise and sunlight, start taking cold showers very important for many physiological reasons and start expanding your knowledge instead of shitposting and vidyas, and most importantly stop fucking smoking weed it kills your motivation and drive.. If you gotta drink, drink what ever but work on not smoking pot. Once you start bettering yourself the rest will follow.
