Childishness

Holla Forums, I fear that childishness has consumed the youth of our nations. I myself am guilty of this. I can hardly call myself a man, but nothing more than an overgrown child. My work and study ethic is poor, my motivation and initiative is lacking. Physically I've improved myself and developed the appearance and physicality of a man, but how do we as young people without having been raised by strong, masculine men develop the work ethic and maturity of a man in this effeminate world? ITT please provide advice/inspiration/role models for how to be a man, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Thank you

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I never had a father, was a complete pussy until I was 25, and still managed to turn it around. For me the first step was the realisation that caring what other people think about me is stupid. That gave me my first shot of confidence but it took almost a year after that before my confidence fully developed. Keep your chin up m8 it is possible to do.

I'm working on that. My whole life I've been trained to care first and foremost about what other people think. Only recently have I realized that in this day and age there could be no worse inclination. That's like the blind leading the blind, or rather in our case those that see following those that are blind.

But my real question is: How do we develop the STRENGTH to stand alone?

There is not any easy way it was suppose to be engraved in us over our formative years as young children so we would have the proper values to survive. Only intense hardship and struggle for some years whittling away at all the day habits can change anything.

My father is a covert schizoid with no ability to care for or connect to other people. In raelity, I grew up without a dad.

He tossed me into the garbage compacter of public "education" rather than send me a to a private school, which we could have afforded (to save money) and sat me in front of the TV (nigger culture) to make up for it.

I ended up being abused and bullied and crushed. By the time I was 8 I was a suicidal depressive.

I was a major depressive until about 23 when I found a psychedelic based therapy whose effects are permanent (Ayahuasca).

Four years later I'm still living at home, still physically suffering from the emotional abuse but I'm almost done healing. I've had to build myself up alone, and that's fine.

My aryan spirit was always there. I always wanted to work tons, to achieve, I just got cut from it by sick teachers and sick children.

OP, there are two types of people in the world:

-Those who accept things the way they are (in their lives)
- Those who continually push to improve themselves.

You are consciously aware of your weaknesses. Now do something about them. Small steps. I wanted to be healed all at once, it took four years and I'm still not compltetely off the ground.

My life has been totally empty of love or health. From the moment I could remember the world conspired to destroy me. It never stopped. Every single day. And yet I'm still alive. I'm not dead, they didn't kill my soul. The years on prozac, the humiliation, the beatings, the insults, the stress they inflicted on me, the thousands and thousands of times I wanted to kill myself, the tens of thousands of hours I lost myself in video-games to keep my violent rage suppressed.

You just have to be open and desiring for life to give you a chance, and then seize it.

You need to continually push yourself out of your comfort zone, you will hate it and just want to go and play on your computer instead, but if you force yourself to do something, even if you fail, you will be happy you did it.

Start small and work your way up.

Yes, the American people are literally retarded. Welcome to the brave new world order.

That's only true if you're capable and self-supportive in the first place. If you're a trenchcoat katana-fedora and everyone is telling you that you're stupid, then maybe you ought to listen to them.

If you're a self-sufficient prepper/homesteader who takes responsibility for their own self defense, then maybe you can ignore all the people who tell you you're stupid.

I'll add onto this. It's a bit short-sighted to think that everyone cares about whatever you're doing as well. Everyone else is too busy being impaired by what they think that others think about them. Just do what's right, and if people think poorly of you, then that means that they're bad people, and you don't want them to like you anyway. Most people would probably look at you, and think, "man, I wish I could do that." But, they can't, cause they're too busy being worried about what others think, and they know it, and they still do it. In other words, decent people will think good of you for doing good things, and bad people will think bad of you for doing good things. Do good things. Other people will largely just forget about you though, unless you really make their day, because everyone is very focused on themselves, just as you are.

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Men are natural-born leaders. There's many things to lead, such as a business, a family, a country, or even more importantly, yourself. You need to lead yourself. You need to look at yourself and realize that your actions are solely your responsibility, and that shouldn't scare you. That should be a load off of your mind. It's not "oh man, I have all of these things I must do, because [anything here]". It's, "man, I love that everything I do is my responsibility, and that I get to choose who I owe, and what I do, and I can even be a jerk if I want to, but since I'm the one choosing here, I'll be a good person." It's not binding obligations, it's freedom. You get to choose how to live your own life. So, a man is someone who leads himself. Leading other things naturally comes after leading yourself, but don't worry about that until you're the leader of, at least, your own thoughts.

It's practice, until it becomes comfortable. Your current state of mind is unsuited to it, because you currently care too much about what others think of you. That's the biggest issue. Get rid of that, and you're on your way to standing alone. The next step is having actual beliefs, and not just parroting things because it makes you feel better about yourself. I'm a born-again Christian, and I love God. I'm also grateful to him for this salvation that I've been given, so that that motivates me to do his will, because he's made me truly free, and it didn't come with any strings attached either. I want to do things for God, because I want to. It's a very motivating factor for me. So, I always advocate for the truth, even if it's unpopular. I don't do it in vain though. If I can clearly see that it won't change any opinions, then I don't bother. So, the point is, if you have something to say that you're motivated to say, and you have no qualms about saying it at the time, then you say it. It really doesn't require a lot of strength unless you're blocking yourself from doing so. At least, that's been my experience.

I'll add onto this too. Children have no shame. They will do the most embarrassing things, and they won't even understand what was embarrassing about it. These are some solid years to practice those skills that many don't have nowadays because of their social anxiety. If you can ignore the anxiety though, you can learn these skills too, and still not even be half as embarrassing about it as children are.

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