Yeah, and often people accuse you of being a closet racist or a 'white liberal' for having this view, but i think they misunderstand the point entirely and are pursuing their own attention whoring agenda.
I think, as a white person, its exhausting as fuck to have this discussion over, and over, and over again, like white people enjoy having to discuss 'race' all the time and having our only major engagements with black people be through a racialized lens. It's fucked up and I have noticed that liberals, idpolers, and the 'intersecitonal' crowd totally gets off to it.
I find it alienating as hell, because of the way it reinforces an 'us v. them' mentality, and its why i've never embraced idpol or intersectionalism, even when i was most prone to embracing it.
I'm happy i found this place bc it really got me out of that funk where i was inventing oppression and offense where there was none. I wasn't looking at people as individuals with their own strengths and weaknesses, i was positively discriminating them according to whether they were black, white, etc.
This itself, the process of discriminating is exhausting as all hell, no matter whether its 'positive' or 'negative.' and I think no matter you're skin color its something we all relate to.
I can't imagine its easy to be black and walk around all day seeing white people as devils that consistently fuck your life up. Having that kind of a warped view must be a lot of negative energy and hate to harbor, even if you do think your lived experiences justify those views.
On both sides, I just want the divisions to end, period. I have yet to see idpollers or the intersectional crowd present a truly unifying message. The most 'radical' intersectionalists always seem to be the farthest away from a class analysis, and the same goes for the idpol crowd.
And yeah, I totally agree with you mate. i typed this up REALLY shitty, so i apoloize if its confusing to read, but i'm just tired of fighting and arguing with people and having your opponents make shit up and insinuate things you never even said. It's exhuasting and counterproductive..