One of the big problems of our generation is being a generation of men raised by women, in a society that's gradually been pushing effeminization over the last few decades - bringing us such joys as the trans movement and other pleasantries. Everywhere I look it's boys in mens bodies. We've lost what it means to truly be a man, as it has been shrouded in obscurity and lies.
I'm sure many of us grew up in broken homes, with broken relationships - divorced parents, comical examples of role models, many of our families serve as examples of what kind of people we shouldn't be. Respect, true, honest respect is almost nowhere to be seen, along with good, strong, male role models. Honestly we've probably learned more from video games and anime about what good male figures are.
How did you learn to become a man? I honestly didn't learn from my father. He was responsible, but was he somebody that I wanted to emulate? No. Now I'm in my 20s, but I still feel like a kid inside sometimes. Doesn't help that I have student loans, have no house, no health insurance and feel like I have to pussyfoot around life just to get by.
It's hard not to feel like a hamster on a wheel in the shekel generator. And I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels that way. It doesn't help that everyone around has the idea that this is the way to live, and not only that - they want you to live like this too. It can really lead to a feeling of insanity, from a constantly sensing an overwhelming feeling of restraint. Many also feel directionless, like trying to wander in an unknown land without a map.
Society is obviously trying to cut our balls off, both literally and figuratively at this point, though the effeminization of men is done through many subtle ways that many people probably don't even sense. How do we learn to become men in the modern day? Even the very definition of what a man is has been so skewed and twisted - so many don't even know down from up.
What keeps me going is a sense of purpose deep down, something that I have to dedicate my entire life to, and become the very best at it. But there's so much more to being a man, and I agree that alot of it is the individual journey, but where are the guides?
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