Betas are far more dangerous than Chads.
betas are dishonest. These men hide their mistakes, avoid conflict, say what they think people want to hear, and repress their feelings. These traits make betas fundamentally dishonest.
betas are secretive. Because they are so driven to seek approval, betas will hide anything that they believe might upset anyone. The beta motto is, "If at first you don't succeed, hide the evidence."
betas are compartmentalized. betas are adept at harmonizing contradictory pieces of information about themselves by separating them into individual compartments in their minds. Therefore, a married man can create his own definition of fidelity which allows him to deny that he had an affair with his secretary (or intern) because he never put his penis in her vagina.
betas are manipulative. betas tend to have a hard time making their needs a priority and have difficulty asking for what they want in clear and direct ways. This creates a sense of powerlessness. Therefore, they frequently resort to manipulation when trying to get their needs met.
betas are controlling. A major priority for betas is keeping their world smooth. This creates a constant need to try to control the people and things around them.
betas give to get . Though betas tend to be generous givers, their giving often has unconscious and unspoken strings attached. They want to be appreciated, they want some kind of reciprocation, they want someone to stop being angry at them, etc. betas often report feeling frustrated or resentful as a result of giving so much while seemingly getting so little in return.
betas are passive-aggressive. betas tend to express their frustration and resentment in indirect, roundabout, and not so nice ways. This includes being unavailable, forgetting, being late, not following through, not being able to get an erection, climaxing too quickly, and repeating the same annoying behaviors even when they have promised to never do them again.
betas are full of rage. Though betas frequently deny ever getting angry, a lifetime of frustration and resentment creates a pressure cooker of repressed rage deep inside these men. This rage tends to erupt at some of the most unexpected and seemingly inappropriate times.
betas are addictive. Addictive behavior serves the purpose of relieving stress, altering moods, or medicating pain. Since betas tend to keep so much bottled up inside, it has to come out somewhere. One of the most common addictive behaviors for betas is sexual compulsiveness.
betas have difficulty setting boundaries. Many betas have a hard time saying "no," "stop," or "I'm going to." They often feel like helpless victims and see the other person as the cause of the problems they are experiencing.
betas are frequently isolated. Though betas desire to be liked and loved, their behaviors actually make it difficult for people to get very close to them.
betas are often attracted to people and situations that need fixing. This behavior is often the result of the beta's childhood conditioning, his need to look good, or his quest for approval. Unfortunately, this tendency pretty much guarantees that betas will spend most of their time putting out fires and managing crises.
betas frequently have problems in intimate relationships. Though betas often put tremendous emphasis on this part of their lives, their intimate relationships are frequently a source of struggle and frustration. For example:
betas are often terrible listeners because they are too busy trying to figure out how to defend themselves or fix the other person's problem.
Because of their fear of conflict, they are frequently dishonest and are rarely available to work all the way through a problem.
It is not unusual for betas to form relationships with partners whom they believe to be "projects" or "diamonds in the rough." When these projects don't polish up as expected, betas tend to blame their partner for standing in the way of their happiness.