My parents and psychiatrist convinced me to do a really challenging course at...

Mason Cox
Mason Cox

My parents and psychiatrist convinced me to do a really challenging course at university. My mom and dad both said I'll be miserable and not able to succeed in a normal job. I wish I had the social skills to get a normal job, I wish I wasn't genetically fucked so I could get a manual labor job, but even my parents will admit those aren't options for me.
It's blatantly obvious to me I have some form of brain damage or else I've always been retarded. I'm constantly trying to do things that are impossible. I can't process lectures, my lab partner hates me because I'm an idiot and literally shouts at me (he has aspergers), I have to cheat on literally every assignment. As a result I keep getting panic attacks and lashing out at people at home.

My question is, is any of this my fault? I'm constantly filled with anger at myself but I just realized today that this is ridiculous. I spent an hour reading 2 simple slides from lectures, anyone would get driven crazy, focusing really hard. I don't have any support - my psychiatrist refuses to acknowledge any problem until there's physical evidence, which means until I fail the exams at the end of the year. I can't imagine a more mentally stable person being able to handle this.

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Cooper Russell
Cooper Russell

I don't have any support
The Lord supports you, user. Just admit to yourself that you can't do this alone, and pray to Him for help

Leo Bell
Leo Bell

Currently in a similar life position, user.
Everyday i constantly have to deal with self hatred, social anxiety and depression.

I constantly question my intelligence if i'm intelligent or borderline retarded, questioning if i'm actually able to seriously study or if i just don't have the intellectual capacity and attention span to just finally seriously study for once in a day.

But most of all is dealing with my restricted social skills, wishing i could freely talk to this person without anxiously thinking about the possibilities of getting laughed at.

I think it's important that we should support each other as we both suffer from this horrendous life.

Adrian Rivera
Adrian Rivera

Oh look, a crybaby teenage faggot

Grayson Lopez
Grayson Lopez

there's a million jobs out there

you will be good at more than one of them

find out what those are

also NEVER let anyone else decide what you can and cannot do. think about it - nobody knows you better than yourself, so you are the best judge. also don't be afraid to fail. most people have gotten a job and gotten fired/had to quit at some point. it happens.

get a job, make money and use the independence this grants you to get away from people who want to hold you down or control you.

also look up ways to improve concentration if it matters to you. mby quitting porn or taking colder showers or dietary changes who the fuck knows, but something.

lastly stop bullshitting yourself

wish i had the social skills to get a normal job

fucking really, dude there are 2 autists at my current work (hotel casino) one is a valet the other is hotel desk clerk. both do fine, if mby struggle a bit more then others.

Joshua Sanders
Joshua Sanders

Remember, kill yourself now and you'll be all these things but live in a third world country where they'd stone you to death for being such a faggot.

Henry Green
Henry Green

My parents and psychiatrist convinced me to do a really challenging course at university. My mom and dad both said I'll be miserable and not able to succeed in a normal job.
Literally same. I dropped out for the second time last year. Now NEETing.

Gabriel Sanders
Gabriel Sanders

Its like none of you faggots of seen Welcome to the NHK!

This can't even happen in 3rd world countries, because its the support network of mommy daddy and their money that enables this to happen. Like in Welcome to the NHK! there is that NEET kid that lives in his sisters addict…she runs out of money, he starts starving till he literally crawls down the street to get a job at a noodle job. After which he is happy and healthy.

Ryder Lewis
Ryder Lewis

Except that never happened. You should read the source material before drawing conclusions from foreign cartoons.
Also how come random women who pose themselves as saviors of NEETkind themselves always have their own crippling issues rendering them useless? It's more common than just this one book.

Logan Ross
Logan Ross

random women who pose themselves as saviors of NEETkind themselves always have their own crippling issues rendering them useless? It's more common than just this one book.

Yah? Probably is pretty common IRL thats how most tropes end up in art…the story is good, lots of real life lessons can be gleaned from it

As far as book/anime/manga differences I don't give a fuck.

I was referring to the anime as an example to help OP and others who post here. The NEET mmorpg kid is saved from himself once his support system disappears. This should be taken to heart, whether it is from a foreign cartoon (relevance?) or not.

Also

pic related

for more good life teachings from animu

Easton Gray
Easton Gray

I get serious temptations to buy ritalin regardless of whether it's a good long term plan or not. Only thing stopping me is the ridiculous prices on deepweb.
You might be right, maybe I'm too anxious or sad which makes me care too much. But how I see it is I don't feel there are any jobs that employers wouldn't just consider charity giving to me. I've worked at a supermarket for a couple months once and went through a lot of self-discovery. I feel in the way, either a nuisance or just inferior to any normal person. I'd keep getting passed over for taking on duties, even if it's a simple task not involving interaction, and it's just unbearable. I've also worked under my dad and it's the exact same feeling.
I've only seen the first episode (stopped because of the manic savior girl porn) but I suspect the guy is handsome and normal. It's not believable or relatable.

Colton Perez
Colton Perez

episode
It's a book you flaming faggot

Jaxon Parker
Jaxon Parker

Regardless of your capabilities or lack therof, your life is still your responsibility. You can always improve in any skill that you want, even if initially you have more obstacles than other people. In fact there is tons of history of people who had more obstacles than others and those people tend to actually do better than “normal” people. I wonder if you have a true disability, or are just creating your problems by believing there is a problem that doesn’t exist and your swinging at mirages. I did that for awhile with being socialble. I always was worried about saying that right thing or believing that something was lacking.

I realize now how foolish that was. There was nothing wrong with me and I have more friends than ever. And I’m happier than I’ve ever been to. You haven’t actually said if your diagnosed with anything and I’m betting that your not.

You have two options. You can sit and cry and be mad about your life and feel sorry for yourself. Maybe make excuses to snack and drink, do drugs, whatever your escapism is.

Or you can do the thing you want to do, face your fears and conquer them. I don’t care if you do it slow or fast, but do it. Everyday just go a tiny bit out of your comfort zone. Everyday inch towards your goal.

And that’s all you have to do.

Jacob Bell
Jacob Bell

Go for a 30 minute fast walk or run every day. It will clear your mind and improve your mental balance.
Exercise is vital for mental focus and calmness.
Make sure your sleep is in a completely dark room, no phone chargers or alarm clock lights. No noises. Sleep from midnight or earlier, and for 7.5-9 hours a night.
Eat plenty of dark green and colourful vegetables. Nuts and seeds, mushrooms.
Take magnesium, zinc, vitamin B complex, vitamin D3 supplements. They should be fairly cheap.

Most of it is perhaps your frame of mind and your perception, you are stressing out from pressure or believing that you can't do it, which is constantly distracting you and making it harder for you.
Treat it more like a game, take away some of the pressure. Just do your best, and more importantly, know that you are doing your best. Try new methods of learning, draw diagrams every night based on your notes, spend 30 minutes doing that.
Make a solid routine, so you do things at the same time each day.
Go for a walk listening to music on some headphones every day after classes. 30-45 minutes is good. Don't think about studies during that time, just enjoy the sights and use your imagination. You need a gap between classes and self study, the walk will help with that.
Make sure you take a big chunk off on saturday where you do nothing related to study. So the first half of saturday doing things you enjoy, doing something physical, so your mind has a chance to rest.
Force the rest periods, they are very important. Even if you feel they are 'wasted time', they are not. They are to clear your brain so you can relax enough to be able to think and study properly.

Oliver Reyes
Oliver Reyes

seen
he was talking about the anime

Grayson Gonzalez
Grayson Gonzalez

Like I said, try different learning methods.
Read about the different types of learning styles.
visual learner, kinesthetic learner, audio learner, reading/writing, and so on.
passnownow.com/learning-style-auditory-kinesthetic-visual/

Try different methods and see which feels most comfortable, relaxing and useful for your learning style.
From experience, people learn best when they are in a relaxed, focussed state.
Kind of like an absorbant meditative state.
You can draw pictures/diagrams/charts/spiderweb mindmaps/cartoons to help you remember, you can write compressed notes of each day's information for 30 minutes a day, then read them out loud into a recorder, and then listen back to them at the weekend.
Things like that. Find your own style, and find the place where you feel relaxed and at ease while studying.

Kevin Clark
Kevin Clark

The answer to the question of whether or not its your fault is…

It doesn't matter

What's happened to get you where you are today has already happened. It may or may not be your fault, but you are responsible for how you deal with it.

It's your life user, not your parents' lives or you psychiatrist's life. YOURS

YOU have complete responsibility for your life, things may happen that are out of your control, and it's how you deal with it that makes you successful, or at least less of a failure.

You're not the only person with obstacles.

Grayson Jones
Grayson Jones

Which is why he's a flaming faggot.

Wyatt Sanders
Wyatt Sanders

This is really good advice OP, listen to it.
Copy it into notepad and read it once every week or two until it starts to make sense.
A lot is to do with your perception, so don't trust your perception, trust this logic.

"Don't be afraid to fail" is the important part.
Try different things. Now, and in life in general. Sometimes it takes trying different things, sometimes it takes sticking with one thing.
Usually it takes practice.

Nathaniel Barnes
Nathaniel Barnes

my psychiatrist
A psychiater is a jew CIA invention to make you tell everything about you and your problems and sell you medical drugs $$$

Luis Green
Luis Green

For these personality traits, it sounds like a lot is self confidence, some is social skills, some is assertiveness.
All of these can be practised at and improved.
Self confidence can be raised over time, by positive thinking foremost, and by constructive deeds built into your life as good habits and routines.
Exercise, research how to do good quality pushups, and do them every day. Build up from 1-2 to 50 a day, in sets of 5 or 10. Build up over weeks or months, it doesn't matter. Just keep doing them and stick at it no matter what.
Your self confidence will rise because you will feel healthier, stronger, and you will be conquering your body.
Social skills are skills, if you practise at them like you would practise/grind in an RPG, you will become better. Practise small talking with people. Say hi, how are you doing. Say it enough times and it becomes easy. Add to the conversation little by little, trying new things and not being afraid of making a mistake.
Assertiveness comes from speaking your mind, quickly and without hesitation and without overthinking or doubting yourself.
Say 'yes' to more things, quickly. If there is no good reason why not to do it, just DO IT.
It will build your confidence and assertiveness, and you will also gain from the experience itself.
"we're going to the cinema, want to come?"
"Yeah sure, let's go"
Not thinking "oh but maybe i won't like the film or maybe i'll be bored, or maybe this or maybe that", if you have no solid, clearly definable reason, then say yes.
Same goes for helping other people or doing useful things.

Be positive about things and about yourself. When a negative thought comes, immediately counter it by changing it into a positive thought. Over weeks and months this practice will make you better at thinking realistically and you will have more confidence in your decision making and outlook in life.

Zachary Carter
Zachary Carter

just like get autism bux user, its easy.

Justin Wilson
Justin Wilson

lift moar

Nathaniel Campbell
Nathaniel Campbell

This

Thomas Morales
Thomas Morales

OP 7 years ago when I was 18 I went through this. I failed lal the final exams. I could not do anything. I am mentally and physically damaged. The thing is the relentless stress and pressure was doing it. I was so severely stressed day and night all the time I didn't even know what relaxation or happiness was, complete anhedonia. You got to find something that makes you happy and then you got to avoid all the bullshit, for a long time, until your skin clears up, the brainfog goes away, and you really genuinely love your life and yourself, and ONLY THEN will you be able to actually progress in something and do something worthwhile with your life. Right now you're basically being forced through a lot of pointless suffering like I was. I didn't get better myself until the last few months, and I accomplished it by going full hikikomori, and just sperging out completely if anyone tried to force me to do any shit, also helped that I had to have surgery and became really sick, they still tried to force me to constantly do shit and act like I was ok, but I kept vomitting every single time and my heart racing like mad, and I am useless now.

Josiah Perry
Josiah Perry

For me happiness btw was just playing games on my computer all day and finding a new set of people to enjoy my time with. Couldn't even talk at first but gradually broke out of the paralysis I was in, was able to talk, eventually people stopped commenting my voice sounded depressed and gloomy, eventually started to talk normal, and also got over so many fears of being judged and condemned and so on and started actually shouting about niggers and jews and whatever else I wanted in my room not giving a shit anymore if it triggered people around me. I feel like a liberated man now who had reclaimed his sovereignty.

Wyatt Diaz
Wyatt Diaz

This is a thing that extends well into adulthood and usually ends with suicide at 30. I got comments like that when I was a teen and a young adult. They were never helpful. Leave OP alone.

Owen Butler
Owen Butler

this entire thread is b8 to create massive jimmy rustling
life is tough, don't beat yourself up. the whole world is too busy doing it for you.

Ryder Moore
Ryder Moore

pharma drugs
all those side effects

Hudson Stewart
Hudson Stewart

this whole thread is full of trolls and blackpill shills

Stop shivering, it's YOU who are cold, not the snow!
Don't let that rain make you wet!
You choose to bleed your nose when punched in the face!
Don't be burned, be the bigger man when set on fire!

Hunter Cox
Hunter Cox

worked at supermarket for couple months

yep, well you tried, you definitely have enough experience to draw important life changing conclusions from.

also you're wrong about the animu but w/e you tried watching it right?

Kayden Lopez
Kayden Lopez

My parents and psychiatrist convinced me to do a really challenging course at university
Look at the crying rich kid, LOL

Jackson Price
Jackson Price

Can you fucking believe this guy?

William Ortiz
William Ortiz

sadly yes, i can

Ian Powell
Ian Powell

bumping for later, need to read thread

Christopher Fisher
Christopher Fisher

University costs about $4000 a year here

Carson Lee
Carson Lee

Yes, when there were only one set of footprints in the blood that was when Khorne carried you.

Bentley Bell
Bentley Bell

Actual rich kids skip the trap that is university and start a business or some shit with a small loan of a million dollars. University is a fucking trap that nobody should ever go to and only boomers believe in.

Jose Kelly
Jose Kelly

the more difficult something is the more you learn

Nicholas Baker
Nicholas Baker

I think the first step to overcoming this is to know that you're thoughts are being warped by negative emotions. I doubt you're anywhere near as stupid you say you are, you're in university taking a tough course FFS. You need to learn to stop listening to your family's negative bullshit. What sense is there in telling someone they'll succeed in a degree job and not a typical job? Your psychiatrist is also retarded. No problem until it's physical? That's the total opposite of what he/she should be looking for! Look user, you're smart, talented, and I bet there is an amazing person underneath there. You're just surrounded by negative people who don't give a shit.

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