im going to have ago at answering my own question
dildos are typically for womens sexual gratification and sex dolls are for male sexual gratification
men are disposable in a gynocentric society, men only have worth when they are serving the interests of a possessor of a vagina, where as a woman has intrinsic value for just having a vagina.
women masturbation and the tools they use are a source of power, they show that a woman gets worth from just possessing a vagina and so getting sexual gratification independently is a show of that power
men on the other hand are worthless unless they are divvied out access to a vagina and are made to feel humiliated if they are trying to satiate they sexual urges by not gaining access to a real vagina.
for the same reason prostitution is illegal, men are made to feel like criminals while using sex toys because it stops women from being able to gain leverage in society by means of their vagina
also to address the subject of it specifically being a matter of pedophilia.
il first state that pedophilia is wrong
but there is a contrived move in society to demonise men who are interested in women of legal age who are young and virgins
hysteria is deliberately encouraged, so that men feel like criminals if they try to pursue relationships with such women.
this is to encourage men to be cucks to older women who have born another mans children and / or ridden the cock carousel, so they can still extract worth from having a vagina even when it beaten and used
consider that porn is all drug addicted women with breast implants (ie they look like they have born children) and roasties. this is to brainwash men into being cucks to degenerate women whove already been seeded by another man and ridden the cock carousel. and if a man fantasises or watches porn with a young flat chested woman of legal age they are made to feel like a guilty pedophile.
also consider that a woman can have a dildo any size, even a pocket one so they can conveniently carry it in their hand bag and fantasise about fucking a underage boy, but a man cant buy a sex doll and have a small one for cost / logistical reasons