Fuckbuddy management

Fuckbuddy management

How does one go about it? Currently looking for some tips and tricks to maximize infidelity.

Be very cynical about it and see the human connection as something that is ultimately a gross manifestation of enslavement to the pleasures of the flesh and fulfilling selfish desires.

The main thing for me is just accepting that women are whores and they're going to go out and sleep around with other guys. In other words, I don't place demands on them like that they're not allowed to fuck other people, and I honestly don't let myself get upset by it (that's the difficult part).

The second thing is, I push them away when they say they love me (which they inevitably do). I don't take advantage of them and keep fucking them. I literally have a speech that they all get (this hasn't happened a lot, but it's happened several times) and the speech goes like: I'm touched and honored that someone as special to me as you are, has developed such deep feelings for me. I don't want to lose you, but I also don't want to lie to you, and the truth is, I'm sorry, but I'm just not in the same place as you are yet.

Then I stop fucking them for a while, because, I tell them, there's too much of an emotional imbalance there. This strategy works amazingly well. I hang out with her, invite her to parties and stuff. We hug when we see each other. And there's this enormous sexual tension.

She goes off and dates someone else briefly, and then when they break up, she calls me and we have a few weeks of great sex. And this pattern apparently repeats itself indefinitely. It's fucking great!

You do have to fuck them really well the first few times though. That's what really locks them in. And you have to have compatible personalities. I also don't post any pics on facebook and my privacy settings are such that one girl can't see another girl trying to tag me. It's not that I hide what I'm doing. It's just that this avoids drama.

Now read this from the perspective form a woman.
Op, you'll be unstoppable with this knowledge.

You sound like a cuck, m8.

Damn, how many women are you fucking, dude.

Samefag

If you tell them upfront that you aren't looking for an LTR, and you never lie to them, their perception of you is actually quite positive. Most men are so thirsty that they lie to get into women's pants. It's the lying that makes them angry, not the refusal to commit.


And you sound naive. If you want a girlfriend, then you can get a girlfriend. And when you're in a monogamous relationship, don't cheat, and don't let her cheat.

But OP's question is about fuck budies, and my advice is that don't treat a fuckbuddy like a girlfriend - that's sound advice. If a girl is willing to fuck you NSA and you get upset because she's also fucking other guys, you're a retard. On the other hand, if you don't get upset, then you get to keep fucking her - that's not being a cuck. If you want her to stop fucking other guys, you can make her your girlfriend.

I'm sorry if this is a difficult concept for you.


I have one girl right now that you would call a "fuck buddy." She goes on dating sites, and then she posts bullshit on facebook about how guys should do this or that, and what "real men" are. Her standards are way too high. So even though lots of guys want to date her, none of them are good enough.

When she gets horny, she could hop into bed with any of them, but they are all unknown quantities. She doesn't know if one of them (remember these are guys she has already decided she doesn't want an LTR with) will get "creepy" or clingy or stalkerish. Worse (in some ways), they might just be bad at sex.

So instead, when she gets horny, I fuck her. I try not to call her because if I do, she will inevitably make demands on me, which I'll have to refuse.

In the past I've had two at the same time, but never more than that. I've been in this situation (where we fuck casually after long breaks) with five women since college, but one was a long time ago, so maybe doesn't count. It's been four chicks in the six years since I started trying to do this intentionally.

How old is she? I have a bitter 40 year old woman in my mind as I read this.

And if you aren't making a profit, then she shouldn't be fucking other guys. You should be the John Smith of BDSM if you're fucking more than one girl at the same time in my opinion.

She's 27 for about another two weeks.

She posts "inspirational quotes" all the time. I didn't feel like scrolling back far enough to find one specifically about men, but I know I've seen them.

She has a five year old kid too, so she doesn't have baby-rabies.

so the upshot, I gather, is be wary about hoes that post demands on men on facebook?

Found a better example: that's what she posts after a second or third date when she makes up her mind that this guy isn't going work out. Then she gets dozens of likes and comments like "hang in there gurl" and she jumps back on the dating site.

Like what I said to it depends on what you want. If you want a family, then yeah, avoid her. If you want a steady girlfriend, I don't know. Good luck, I guess? She's too fucking picky (or maybe I'm comparing her to bitches with baby rabies and they're just desperate) - chances are, she's going to reject you.

But if you can get into a fuckbuddy situation, it's pretty okay.

At this point, I can't imagine having a girlfriend. I would just look at everything they do as totally disrespectful. The last time I fucked this girl was May 5th. Some guy bought her dinner and took her to a festival that day. At some point, she had texted me asking me what I was up to. I was getting high with a buddy, then going to a concert later. She asked if she could come. I said sure. So she comes to the house, we hit the concert, I fuck her, she stays the night. The next morning, this guy (I assume the same guy) is taking her to brunch but she's hungover so she moves it to another day.

See, from my standpoint, I can laugh at that because I got sex and absolutely no obligations (although I admit I did buy her some alcohol). But if I was trying to date her, I would see that as total bullshit. But I wouldn't even know about it - I would just suspect it. And given the shit I've seen, I would suspect a lot. Some guy spent a lot of time and money on her, and he got nothing at all. She said "goodbye" to him, went and fucked someone else, then flaked on their brunch plans and met up with him later so that he could spend more time and money for more nothing in return.

I have lots of stories like this. I'm not cynical about it. I just think it doesn't make any sense to have a girlfriend these days.

Is she pretty?

Oh shit, I almost forgot to add: she showed up at my house after her "date" and she was wearing jeans; she wanted to know if she had time to go change (this was just a free outdoor concert, not a big deal, but it had technically already started). I said okay whatever, we can wait. She leaves, and comes back in party clothes - a short skirt, and her hair done right. She looked hot.

So in addition to this other guy forking out money and wasting his entire day, only to have to her go to another man for sex - she didn't even dress up for that guy! They were out during the day, but she didn't put on a sundress or anything - no effort at all for him. I danced with her and grinded on her and made out with her, got blown in the car and fucked the shit out of her. He got nothing.

He (or someone) texted her the next morning to confirm brunch, and she only responded because the phone woke me up and I told her it was buzzing. Otherwise, she probably would have stood him up.

Keep in mind, this doesn't bother me at all. I'm just glad I'm not on the other side of it. I also pick girls up when I can, or ask them on dates and such. I have a couple of simple rules to avoid being a chump: (1) I don't invest any money on a girl I haven't fucked. (2) if she doesn't like me enough to fuck me immediately, I move on.

This little tale of yours sounds too good to be true

go on

Not especially pretty, no. Just average in the face. But, she has an nice body I think.

There was a girl I was with a few years ago who was a 9 or 10 in the face, long blonde hair and blue eyes. Amazing. Her tits were too small when I met her, and then she got a tit job and I thought they were too big and too firm, but she looked great.

It was a similar deal with her as this girl. I sort of lucked out and got to fuck her - right place/right time sort of deal. Then played it casual (didn't act thirsty) and she kept coming back for dick in between trying to date "mr perfect."

I've had a girl text me and tell me the date she was on was boring. I tried to get her to have him drop her off at my place. She did come over, but she drove herself.

Had a girl come by my place after work and she had these flowers. Some guy had dropped, probably more than $100 to send flowers to her work. Plus how much ever he spent on the dates. She changes into her bikini and we sit outside and enjoy the sun for a while, fuck of course, then she went home to get ready for her date with that guy. Hopefully, she brushed her teeth.

There was a girl, and I wasn't fucking this one, but I was fucking her roommate. She had broken her iphone and I happened to be over at the house when a guy delivered a brand new one. I took note of the fact that this guy only got a hug and was described as "such a good friend." So I asked my girl if that was her boyfriend. Nope. Just a guy. He takes her out, buys her shit, and she fucks other people.

Look, if you're fucking a girl, then that's great. but if you're not, assume someone else is.

1. The guy probably got something out of it… be real. If she's really like that, would you have fucked a girl like that? 15 year old girls waste men's money on giving them nothing. At least once in a while this girl had to give him something, at least once or twice. If she really didn't you're story wouldn't have any validity to it because you would essentially be telling me that this guy is spending money on a girl who isn't giving him anything and is spending time with the guy who just gives her sex and doesn't give her anything? It's hard to believe I'm afraid. Would you really spend time with a girl who doesn't spend money with you or on you?

2. You're an animal. How is it that men and women can just go around fucking each other like they do? If there's one thing I want you to take from this post, and I don't care who answers really - is this sexual liberation today a matter of Lust, or Vanity?

Or loneliness, depression, and emptiness, for that matter.

So lets get this straight, just for the record.

Woman fucks guy who just gives her sex.
Woman doesn't fuck guy who spends money on her.

Man spends + money on girl, gets no poontang.
Man spends - money on girl, gets poontang.

Are you telling us that relationships are just an expensive and emotional contract between two people to commit to only each other?

Are you a virgin user? Your inability to believe the referenced post says you don't have a lot of experience with women.

I'm not saying anything. I'm just proposing a possible reason for why somebody is trying so hard to justify their leacherous life which lacks all meaning and fulfillment.

evidently it has fulfillment for him. he keeps doing it. otherwise he would have stopped.

What's an alternative THAT IS ACTUALLY POSSIBLE

Keep in mind, "I'm going to save myself for a virtuous aryan virgin who will love me unconditionally" is NOT actually possible - it's naive.

Nice jump in logic. Consider that it doesn't and the hollow feeling left behind is why he continues doing it in a sad attempt to fill that hole.

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for the record I am not the same user who previously answered you so I am taking a different logical stance.
And don't married people continue fucking for the same reason?

thank you. Let me present a parallel to my position here. Imagine that OP had asked, "what do you do for Christmas?"

Then I came in and said, well first of all, there's no Santa. That's just your parents giving you gifts. So what I do for Christmas is, I don't leave out milk and cookies for Santa. I had a dinner party for some friends, we have good food and good conversation, and enjoy each other's company.

Now, comes along says, "that's such hedonism! just drinking and carrying on and ignoring the work that Santa and his elves do for you!"

Look bro, it's not my fault that santa doesn't exist.

Another jump. Do they? What are you basing this conjecture on that marriage somehow equals some sad faggot trying to lie to himself that being an overblown orbiter?

You didn't actual refute my argument with an valid point. You just keep saying this non sequitur, "jump".
You seem to already have a bias and are springing from that to argue that user is somehow leading an empty life.
Your wanting to convince of that seems to point to your empty "moral" life that has you preaching to people on an anonymous board.
And who even said user was looking for fulfillment in the casual encounters. You faggots place sex on a pedestal. That's why many of you are virgins. It's just something people do. It doesn't have to give you the meaning to life.
Is that projection? He is fucking her. That isn't an orbiter. That is a Chad, friendo.

As do you.
Oh no, people don't want to live with no standards, how terrible :^(((
He's orbiting. There is no advancement in their relationship. She fucks him when she can't find anybody better and then fucks off. He buys her shit. He's an orbiter, sorry.

Lol, no I get it. And I've had sex before, plenty of times with my ex of course. But I didn't buy her things if it wasn't her birthday or Christmas, just pizza. And she would rent the dvd's. We had that good thing going on. I don't think she realized that I pirated like a mother fucker though, and she had no idea what streaming meant.

I've fucked around with three girls since then, all once, who all had boyfriends at the time. And that's the extent of my sexual life. I understand that men and women just like having sexual encounters - I browse the porn categories at times, and I read the news and browse the web. I get what's out there and what people are into.

I just don't get how women can start fucking for free. That was OUR THING!

No, not a bias. I have reality.
Because he doesn't hold to your puritanical standards that means he has none. Okay, buddy pal.
And who said he was looking for advancement? He obviously likes the way the relationship is. You're the one crying about it. So I assume you have orbiter baggage.

He's filling other people's holes and you can't accept that that's what women want. Neither can I, don't worry. Men have holes too.

That's cute. It's a bias, bucko.
You're really in deep. This world's fucked you up bad, hasn't it?
Tell me about your problems. Where did it all go wrong?


You mean one whore he has to drown in alcohol.

It seems as tho some people are upset that this guy uses women just for sex. Yes this practice is degenerate but lets break this down.
-Women is a degenerate that uses men.
-Man is using women as she uses men.
-Women was like this before she met him.
-Man is just taking an opportunity to get a free fuck from a whore.
Now what would be a negative factor on his part is if he met a nice girl and turned her into a slut then left her. Yes then everyone has the right to be upset. But the girl hes talking about would fuck anything even subhumans. So pleas dont become a white knight over whores like the one being discussed.

No, it isn't bucko.
You gonna save my soul, user. Are you a Jehovah's Witness. lel
Well, it started when I read this silly user's sanctimonious post…

Alcohol is a social lubricant. You start saying things your brain knows what it wants to say without checking it twice, or as much as you would sober. I mean, once the thought is out there; once the connection is there and you're both on the same level of agreement, it's all gucci from there.

You don't have to have to have alcohol. And disregarding user's case, plenty of partners fuck without alcohol's help. You just have to be attracted to each other, or you both (or all) have to have it, and it can happen. It doesn't take committing to one person That kind of connection is something else. It takes two people (or more, whatever) to be totally interested in each other. Two people who can't get what they need from anyone else, and want what the other person has, as frequently as they want. And when those kind of factors are met on the same levels you've got yourself a relationship, a connection of equal interests and you can make it work. Of course, it helps to find each other interesting, and not some annoying, uninteresting whore or Chad that just has good pussy or a good dick, or alcohol or drugs, and isn't someone you can be around for more than one night.

He isn't a very interesting person to women, except for previous sexual encounters, and he'll probably never get over that. And you'll probably never get over never being as experienced as he is with women you would never find interesting in the first place. Neither of you can understand each other's style or reasoning and you're both punching the brick wall dividing you that is women.

You can't stop girls from becoming women I'm afraid. Unless you're programming things like drugs and materialism into their feeble minds at the same time that you help them feel what makes those pornstars and neighbors scream - then you aren't really doing too much damage. Besides, they were never our problem to begin with. Leave the aftermath to the cleanup crew that thinks you can put a price on good pussy.

And we shall not let women divide us. Strength through unity, unity through faith.

Problem is that cleanup crew is dwindling to nothing. Support for the used women will be at an all time low in the future. I can see blow back coming to men who use and let lose. I myself don't care about the repercussions of those men but as society shifts and the single used up women have no one to take care of them they will try to have the state or government do so. The question is, how do guys get around having to support any of the used up women? No matter what happens a support tax will be implemented. Maybe smart men can turn this tax into an investment by starting companies that utilize the taxation.

this reads like the most pitiful larp ever.

Checking my double 88 posts.

— cucked man

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I note that none of you are able to answer:

Daddy popped my black ass when I was 9, so…

Just took a read of this thread and I want to thank you for the perspective. What I have is working out, and It's good to have additional info.

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