My Grandfather is dying….
I am not with him.
My father and aunt are with him 1000 or so miles away. He has congestive heart failure, it is working at only 10% efficiency. I just spoke with him for what may be the last time. My father and aunt have signed a do not resuscitate order in accordance with my Grandfather's wishes.
He is 89 years old, He has been blessed with a long and happy life, and yet I feel so sad to see him pass.
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Fuck off dataminer
This one time my cat died.
I assure you I mean to mine no dats.
I am sorry to hear that, I have a cat which I love immensely, not as much as a human but still quite considerably.
Don't worry hes got 8 more tries.
I was with my grandpa when he died and got to take care of him a bit on his deathbed while my sister and cousins weren't around. It was nice but honestly wasn't really that important to me, I just hold it over my cousins heads in subtle ways when it's convenient for me.
The whole idea of closure is overrated. You either had a good relationship or you didn't. It's good if someone is there when they die but someone not being there doesn't really mean that much.
Thankfully I've never lost someone before but when i was a kid my cat died. I didn't have any friends and he was a super awesome and chill cat, never hissed or scratched, loved everyone and would always come over and rub against me when I was sad. He loved going outside and (gruesomely) catching mice. One night when I was playing videos games my friend came and told me my cat was under the porch crying and meowing. We brought him in but his legs didn't move and he couldn't stand, my mom said she'd take him to the vet so I said goodbye to my kitty, even with all the pain he was in he still nuzzled my hand, mom took him to the vet but there was nothing they could do, he had to be put down. I loved that little guy.
It's not the need for closure, I just don't know what to do with myself right now. If I am being totally honest, I feel my Grandfather ought to have died when his second wife (not my grandma) died.
He lived the dream lads, married a hot 20 something when he was in his forties. So when she died before him it was devastating to him, yet he has had to linger on some three years after her death as his health slowly faded.
I believe this is pasta, but thank you. :)
its not, and no problem I wish you the best. Time doesn't really heals wounds, but it dulls the pain and turns it into good memories and nostalgia.
It just kind of seems like you're expecting some other emotional reaction that probably just won't come. People don't usually talk about it but when someone dies and it's their time (or past), they just sort of die. Sometimes it's a relief even.
My apologies.
I think it would be a relief.
This has been going on for a few weeks now. He will go into cardiac arrest and be hospitalized where they then pump him full of drugs and he comes back, weaker each time but mentally sound.
He was planning to move to my state to be near my family and I. My Father flew there last Thursday to facilitate the move. Then last night he stopped breathing, he would've passed then and there but for my aunt who was by his side and called for help. When he was brought back again he asked to not be resuscitated anymore.
I just want him to be at peace. Maybe I'm being selfish for wanting to not go through this anymore. I feel I am a horrible person for wanting to see him pass. If he could still walk, eat the foods he wants, see his friends and do all the other things he did just a few months past…
I would not feel this way. I know I am justified in feeling this way but the doubt gnaws at me.
My grandfather died at 88 from a heart attack with Alzheimer's. He decked a nurse in the face and nearly broke their nose because he thought he had been captured by Germans, no joke.
That's hilarious user.
I'm glad he got to go out fighting, that is the way all men should go.
He patrolled around the house with his service rifle, until my grandmother got worried about it and hid it in the attic before he was admitted to the nursing home. He was a fairly high ranking officer in the Navy and dedicated 40 years of his life to his country and to his family. Great father and family man. He did basically everything he wanted in life. Learned to scuba dive, hunt, fish, water-ski, travel the world, have a family, see his kids have their own kids, etc. I can only hope that OP's grandfather did the same.
who cares?
My Grandfather joined the Navy three weeks before the end of WWII, his father insisted he finish high school before enlisting.
I believe not participating in the war was his biggest regret in life not related to his first wife.
He studied history and became a teacher. All his life he was interested in learning about the war. He knew all the battles, the politics the technological developments….
Sadly he never became truly red-pilled on the JQ as far as I know. He certainly said that more people died in Russia and China than Germany. Maybe he knew and didn't want to say for fear of losing his job idk.
Few enough that's true.
Have him infused with blood of children. It works, keeps jews alive for decades past their own normal death age.
Hahaha, I honestly don't doubt it.
My father died 3 years ago, around this same time of the year - 14 February, 2014. We had had a family discussion 2 weeks before.
My mother had found out that I'm into crossdressing, and had threw my girl clothes away (cause she was very religious back in the day, she changed after this whole thing).
I called her a whore 'cause what she did. My father was like "I dare you to said this again to your mother", and I: "Whore".
He punched me.
I said it again: Whore.
He punched me.
I said it again: Whore.
He punched me.
My brother and mom say to him stop.
I go away
I get on a bus to the capital of my state
My father goes after me there in the capital, he goes buys a ticket in the same bus
When we get there, 3 hours later, he apologize for having punch me
And convices me to get back to my city
I agree, but I say I don't get back to my house, I don't like to see my mom's face.
He takes to me to his brother's house.
He died 2 weeks later from a heart attack.
I always wonder if that hadn't occurred if he would be alive today, or at least if we would have lived more weeks, or some more months. 'Cause his health wasn't great before this, actually his health had got worst in the last 5 years before
Sorry for my English grammar mistakes. As you may notice English not my native language.
That's rough mate. What made you decide to be a cross-dresser? Do you understand why that may have been a shock to your father? I am not condoning or condemning you btw I just want to understand.
Well… women clothes so pretty and feminine and cute, and soft. And, tbh, I get turned on as hell when wearing them, like, a dress as a girl and masturbate while wearing.
But just to be clear, my father didn't punched me being a crossdresser, but for me having calling my mom a whore.
I think my mother took the whole thing waaaay worst than my mother, especially because my father was never so religious as my mom. I mean, he was not like "cool, son".
But it was mom who took my clothes away, not him.
Have you had many girlfriends?
Correction:
Well… women' clothes are so pretty and feminine and cute, and soft. And, tbh, I get turned on as hell when wearing them, like, I dress as a girl and masturbate while wearing them.
But just to be clear, my father didn't punched me cause I was a crossdresser, but for me having calling my mom a whore.
I think my mother took the whole thing waaaay worst than my father, especially because my father was never so religious as my mom. I mean, he was not like "cool, son".
But it was my mom who trash out my clothes away, not him.
No, never. And I'm also a virgin. But I'm attracted to women especially when they are wearing diapers and tights and dressed as little girls #ABDL, I have a lot fetiches
But I think when I'm dressed out as a girl, the idea of having a boyfriend kinda turned me on, not because I think boys are attractive… It's complicated, but… in my mind, since I have this sexual fantasy for being a woman, and most woman like boys, the ideia of liking boys turned on me on, cause this something that women are, it's way crazy to explain but I think they called this autoginecophilia.
Just my humble opinion but I think you are over thinking it. You can have all kinds of bizarre fetishes brought on by too much porn and isolation.
Exercise, lift weights and practice no-fap. give it a few months and start approaching women. You'd be amazed how fantastic a real live vanilla relationship with a 3dpd can be.
The most extreme digital fetish is nothing compared to a woman's touch and smell. Balance your hormones and live life as nature and god intended.
I'm pretty certain in saying that the discovery of your degeneracy hastened your father's death. He already had bad health, the stress of finding out that his son is a cross dresser (and a disrespectful piece of shit at that) was too much for his heart to handle.
I'm not saying that you should feel responsible for your father's death, but I would if I were in your situation.
I never seen my grandparents, my parents died when I was young so fuck you.I hope he has terrible pain, and your whole family die in agony.
A great many factors hasten or delay our demise. I would refrain from assigning blame to an individual factor especially without a complete view on exactly what the circumstances were. That said a morally righteous life is best for health and happiness. Not to say I am innocent, I have made my own mother cry more times than I should wish, however it is the attempt to do right and reject our base selfishness that is pleasing to the eyes of god. A hypocrite who admits he is a hypocrite is more praiseworthy then one who does not.
I am sorry you have not known your family as well as I mine. Your anger is understandable. I pray you find peace in this life.
I respect your opinion. But…I don't feel any guilty for that, and I'll tell you why:
That whole situation… it didn't need to be that way. My mom didn't had to react that bad, and yelling at me, and throwing away my beautiful women' clothes. also, that situation got that bad because my mom was very stressed and yelling with me, which ended up making my father stressed, and escalating the situation. My father didn't had to punch me, also.
About me being a "piece of shit" for disrespecting my mom, I never apologize for that, never will. I forgive her for what she did, and we have a great relation nowadays… but I just don't think I was wrong. I think what she did was a violence, and cruel, and she deserved to be called that world at that moment. It was completely justified in my eyes.
They could just have…. talked with me, like normal parentes should do in the freaking 21th. I think if they reacted bad cause they had some prejudice… that's completely on them.
The same way that, for instance, if your father or mother are racist as hell, and you start to dating a black chick and this causes a heart attack on them… it's not your fault. If there's any guilty is… themselves.
Cause you didn't make anything wrong.
Also, my mother knew that my father had a bad health better than anyone, she found out that I was into crossdressing, and she brought the subject to light, and she decided to put my father in the discussion, and she escalate the situation when she threw away my clothes.
I DON'T blame her, but if we start pointing fingers she was way responsible for the outcome of that situation than I.
She made that whole situation worst.
And here you go, casting blame on your mother for reacting the same way any normal individual would to finding out that their child like to dress up as the opposite sex and masturbate.
I know that empathy isn't a strong suit for the mentally ill, but try to have at least a little empathy here; your mother didn't create the situation, she merely reacted to it.
You're right wiseanon, but lets break this down and see what might've worsened this man's conditioned. Perhaps his favorite sportsball team didn't too so well that season. Could be his stocks were slumping and he was worried about it. Or maybe it was finding out that his son is a crossdresser, having to discipline him for disrespecting his mother and then having to take a 3 hour bus ride to chase him down after said son ran away.
opposite sex and masturbate.
Any normal individual where? In the freaking 1950s? The same way that "any normal individual would react bad if they found out that their child were dating a black person?"
Ok, you are being a asswhole, I will just ignore you from now on, bye bye.
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Spoilered because I don't want to ruin OP's thread.
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good. he and his generation ruined the world. fuck them.
Why are you such an insufferable faggot satan
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Yeah, c'mon! It's the current year! People should accept that you want to dress up as a woman and masturbate and fantasize about having a boyfriend!
So you–a self proclaimed member of the ABDL–think you are of perfect mental health? C'mon now.