When I had money, I was dating and having sex all the time. It was great

When I had money, I was dating and having sex all the time. It was great.

Now I'm broke and I have no libido. Women seem less interested. Or maybe it's just me and my self-esteem. I dunno

I dont mean to go all R9K and shit, but how do I accept that a lot of good and cool women simply wont be interested in me unless I make money again? They've been socialized to want both success and a successful partner. But I dont know if there's enough room for those many of those couples.

Should I just find some rich girl and find a sugar mama? How do I find my self worth and libido again in avenues that aren't based around financial successful?

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Go ask /r9k/

this post is so sad, i have no answer friend. this is the nature of the beast

poor people fuck ask them

Naw because I still occasionally bang this rich girl im not attracted to. She's fat and smells weird but her dad has an astin martin and she has a bmw and files to europe all the time first class and shit. maybe i should justsuck it up and marry up

You used to be a male with status but now have none and are finding out that women are attracted to men based on hierarchy.

This thread is shit.

It's better than the irrelevant shiting you're putting out now

something socialism isn't going to address and socialists proudly try to ignore

I mean, do you want a significant other or just wanna casually date people and have sex? None of the above is bad
Maybe it is you and the self esteem; nice to see some possible sort of self awareness
Success is more difficult sometimes with some being unlucky
You can find a rich girl and/or a sugar mama; none of that is bad, too
Ya gotta do what you gotta do to survive under the beast that is capitalism

I mean I am broke and so is my bf; things are a little tougher without money but I like having fun with him

i think im done being a total slut and id like to enter a relationship. I just didnt when i was in my early 20s and had cash.

Dude just steal a couple things and sell them
She won't miss them if she's rich

Go volcel

Preserving your essence will only make you more powerful on the day revolution comes.

ew

Haha get word filtered faggot

Then just fuck broke people too

"I mean I am broke and so is my bf; things are a little tougher without money but I like having fun with him"

Aha! Fun. I've been no fun lately. I forget how important that is to dating. I've been so focused on being "driven" that I've been no fucking fun.

You nerd 😋
Or I don't know you could focus on yourself with reading, chores, hobbies, or what ever it may be that interests you

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leftypol:

You don't need them. Hang out with friends, develop your hobbies.

Basing your self worth on success with women is a porky meme to force you to work harder to get more money to impress them.

normies OUT

There was a news item about a pastor in Brazil who went to the poorly educated destitute women in the slums and convinced them his semen was holy. He ended up having sex with them and I believe (I'm not sure) the courts later condemned him for imposture or sexual assault or something of that sort.

Well, what does Marx say about all of that? He says that in a society which believes in money the value of your semen is determined not by Jesus blessing it but by the amount of money you have in your pocket. Of course you could find a girl who still believes in nobility and she will have sex with your for your Dauphin extraction, or you could find a girl with a religious consciousness, like that guy in Brazil. Perhaps there is some modern day Ersatz-religion to your liking, like fashion, drugs and rock'n'roll?

Of course your money is just one of your qualities (marx quotes Shakespeare on that) but it is, unless we get a communist revolution or you will be dropped off in a hunter-gatherer society in the Amazonas, as much a natural part of yourself as your muscle and your wit. Of course if you have no money, culture, muscle or wit you could still find someone with similar personality as yourself. My personal suggestion is going full gay because you are more likely to find males who are similar to yourself than females. We have a very sexed socialisation in the north-western hemisphere of the capitalist society so the chances are significantly higher.

*alternative to becoming full gay is becoming a fag (that is: adopting a feminine habitus)

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no its a basic part of being a self-aware healthy male human and not caring at all about women is a sign of mental illness. women are our counterparts, its healthy to want to pair up in adulthood. you should heed your instincts to mate and breed. repressing them is a capitalist construct

im thoroughly jealous, hope you had/have a good time.

Women are attracted to wealth and access to resources (among other things) when looking for a father for their kids. Communism decouples these things from hierarchy.


REALLY MADE ME THINK

good thing I'm mentally ill then

Find love in being poor my dude.

Sounds gay.

What are you some kind of animal?

you don't need a ton of money just don't be a slouch who is just doing literally nothing all day.
t.chad

Feels good finally being able to live in peace

Women got the information that you were outgoing and wanting to have sex. You did not convey the information of you having the money, except for paying for dates and having your livelihood secure.

When you don't have secure livelihood, it takes a toll on your mind, which makes you act differently. You are not as confident.

Women saw your confidence, not your account balance. Deal with it.

There's an important phrase that we use here, and think it's time that you all learned it. Act as if. You understand what that means? Act as if you are the fucking President of this firm. Act as if you got a 9" cock. Okay? Act as if.

This. It fucking sucks to be virgin here, everyone's spiteful as fuck and I don't even understand why

Giving a shit about being a virgin is the mark of a coward, that's why.

There's no hope, fam.

I hate to go all biotruths but honestly, I think it goes beyond just cultural conditioning. Men didn't have to be conditioned to prefer younger women, after all.

incel cyborg here
I find fulfillment in being the funny friend who helps his more attractive friends get laid, pretty comfy tbh
plus it comes with the added bonus of having lots of female friends which helps with the need for companionship

the mark of a coward is you.

You're absolutely right.
It's unfortunate

Having sex won't make you normal, I'm sorry to break it to you

Awful.

not an argument.

Haha this.

They can see your account balance without directly seeing it.

Speaking from experience

Sex doesn't do shit for you. At first it's nice and everything but when you have a lot of casual sex you see how hollow and shitty it is. I would have these women over, they would pretend to like whatever I had to say, eat my food, fuck me and then leave. I know for some people that sounds like a dream but it gets old very fast.

I tried the other route afterwards. I got with someone I didn't particularly like but I thought I could make it with. to really show I was committed to this I even married the damn woman, I assumed being together with someone I was meh about was better than being alone and maybe I could grow to have feelings for her. Dead fucking wrong Comrade. At first what seemed like little things blew up to the point where it was constant fighting and she started hitting me with impunity.

So i got a divorce and now here I am. I'm tired, I have emotional damage, no confidence and I'm entirely jaded. I don't even like PEOPLE anymore that's how bad this fucked me. And now since humans can see I'm a miserable sack off shit, women will not give me the time of day because nobody wants to deal with a miserable sack of shit.

tl/dr:
Sex doesn't fix anything, don't just get with someone because you're lonely and love is a giant lie.

Go read theory, do things you enjoy and try to keep the gaping emptiness inside of you at bay. If you're supremely lucky you might meet someone you can stand to be around for more than 20 minutes. Otherwise don't destroy yourself like I did.

About 6 months ago I was working as a barman for minimum wage, and predictably I didn't get a huge amount of female attention (although I still got some, just not from the girls I really wanted to be with). Now I'm on £30k and have great career advancement opportunities, but I'm actively avoiding meeting women because I know I'll get more attention now and I'll get really bitter in the knowledge that whatever girl I end up with wouldn't have wanted to be with me if I were still a barman. Wish I wasn't so cynical tbh.

Fair enough.

What the fuck comr8

Ask 19 year old me, he was fucking retarded

Comrade, it's not just 19yo you that's retarded.

who /sexuallyfrustrated/ here?

why do people do this?
that's like tolerating a shit job in the hopes that they'll promote you/give you a raise in the distant future

wat
That's something you can try like you can command it?

I'm gonna ask a serious question that will seem edgy, but I genuinely want to hear answers. What is the point of a relationship?

Mine were all fairly one sided affairs where I had to give up being myself so someone else could feel good about them self in between sex. Sex wasn't the life changing experience people talk about either, it was fun for a bit but it becomes more of a hassle than fun as time goes on.

I tried to be as gender neutral in this post as possible, this isn't me hating the opposite sex. I really have just lost the appeal of relationships and am wondering what other people get out of it?

didn't your mum tell you about the little switch just above your tailbone? m8 you have to flick that bitch to 1 if you want to fall in love.

Wow dude thanks for the advice. I mean, sorry about all the other shit, though. Hope things get better for you.

I didn't need to feel this today.

ok, yeah, right
you were never actually with someone you fucking loved though

I mean finding the right person who evokes those tender feelings in you and not settling

Sorry bout that fam, i'm not a virgin but i feel lonely as fuck so i feel ya

Honestly? Muh human nature.

Evolutionary drives gave you a basic need for nutrients and water, an extreme will to avoid pain and feel pleasure, a strong desire to belong to a group and have agency in this world and, last but not least, a physically-9inexistant-but-psychollogically-massive desire for companionship and reciprocity.

Maybe you just had shit luck, I dunno.

Spoiler alert: I just dumped four day's worth of jizz into her.

Ooh, I've been there. Ruined some friendships that way.
No regrets, but still, not fun.

Half of your lives are putting trust into collectivism because you think it will get you laid and not actually helping at all to benefit the working class of not just the country but the world.

You could be doing a million things but you didn't and you're not,

You're making the hundred thousandth thread in a week about how alienated you are from capital, like nobody else is.

Shut the fuck up and move on.

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Were you shooting blanks by the end?

Only half?

I wonder what broader sociological effect a socialist society would have on mating. Would it really level the playing field or would we come to see prestige in some other way?

no